My husband is almost 70, sleeps every morning untill 11am, smokes pot on & off all day, eats unhealthy, calls me names, does zero except watch TV. I still work at 70. It's my escape. He has type 2 dieabitis, high blood pressure (somedays) high cholesterol count. I want to file a separation & leave. Am I wrong? I don't want to spend whatever time God gives me being miserable & missing out on my grandchildren & family who live in another state.
Good luck.
And, how can you like someone who calls you names? And, how can you be attracted to someone who doesn't even take care of himself, his health, eats unhealthy? He's not giving you a lot of incentive to stay. If it feels like a trapped feeling being there and you don't foresee his taking any steps to improve his life with you, then it makes perfect sense to separate. It sounds like you need time for yourself and some distance - then you can see how things unfold.
It's more liberating and better to live alone than to live with someone who makes you unhappy - I should know (I'm divorced)!
Wishing you much clarity, peace of mind and happiness to come ~
I read that pot is much stronger than it was 30 years ago .
Doesn't anyone want to be sober anymore. And the stuff is too darn strong.
The other day my husband was wrapping up his day of working, someone near us came over, asked my husband if he wanted any. Hubby took way to much , after a day of work and no food. He almost passed out, I had to keep pinching him under the arm to keep him from going out. He is 72.
There is a time and place for it, all day from morning to night is not. And the strong stuff they have put there needs to be much more controlled.
You do what you have to do to make you happy!
What are you waiting for? Get the heck out of Dodge and go spend time with those precious grandbabies before they're grown.