Today has been a rough day. My precious friend that has been in a board and care home for about 6 months died. He was 93 and fought the good fight, he has been reunited with his loved ones that have gone before. He will be sorely missed here.
The prayers are for my mom. She is in the hospital, she had a bowel obstruction that perforated, while they were doing surgery they found a mass that is colorectal cancer that has metastasized to her liver. She is in serious but stable condition and they are running tests and doing pathology before we will really know what the prognosis is.
I appreciate and covet any and all prayers for her. Whatever is meant to happen I pray she doesn't continue to suffer as she is now. Thankfully they have her on a pain pump and are keeping her fairly comfortable. They have left the surgery site open and it is very painful when she is awake, she cries out in pain. It is difficult to see any human being suffering so.
Thank you for the prayers.
I am around, reading a bit. I keep getting booted off the forum and to be honest, I figure I am becoming obsolete and the powers that be are probably trying to get rid of me. Well, it might work, because I don't have the time or patience to deal with typing out posts only to hit post and get booted.
I will still be around reading about Lealonnie's testimony of healing, because I believe she will be, reading PMs, when able, and seeing how you all are. Because many of you are dear to my heart and my heart goes out to every poster here because they are in desperate situations with their loved one(s).
A couple things that I pray every caregiver embraces for themselves, "You matter too!" And "Do not let your loved one suck your life force before you implement changes that help you help them, they DO NOT get to decide what you need to do for them, period."
May The Lord God Almighty bless each and everyone of you exceeding abundantly as you walk this path you are on. :-)
You are one of the site regulars who is just not expendible. We all DO miss you. I hope you will stay. Your advice to others is so solid. I would hate to think that wouldn't be here for the OPs. I still miss Ahmijoy for the great advice she gave. Now GardenArtist appears to be gone. There are some, like Lea, so reliable for great advice, that their loss would be terrible. You are one of those.
And please write: AshleyH@aplaceformom.com about the glitch you are experiencing in posting. They have us all patched up for now. Don't leave!
Lately, I've had this feeling that it's time for me to move on from AC. I don't plan to leave, but it's been a feeling because of how intense revisiting my grandmother's end-of-life was for me.
After any emotional experience, I suppose it's normal for us to become introspective and think about changes. And many AC users do leave after their LO's pass. You'd be giving a gift to the forum to stick around and weigh in on things you have experience with, and share in the support here.
THIS is the useful and Godly message that social media is excellent for. When we all put aside the petty in-fighting and stay focused on spreading the message, then we make a difference in people's lives. What an opportunity!
I'm not sure I realized this until recently. Having thoughts of leaving here myself for various irritating things. IT being just one.
Then I got sick and so many here reached out to genuinely help me, research issues, send me links, listen to me want to give up and reel me back in. To inject me with piss and vinegar again and choose to accept the challenge that faces me, the biggest one of my life. People who choose to ride this crazy rollercoaster WITH me every day. I wake up to look at my messages and posts and they fill me with hope.
I feel truly reenergized by THIS GROUP OF PEOPLE on Aging care which includes you. You reached out to me in AZ with tips and ideas about everything from not burning Honeys paws in the heat to staying properly hydrated. And how not to have our car eindows explode! 😁😂 You followed our transplant journey when my own step children were hating on me and ignoring their own father, which they are still doing btw. I had more support HERE than in "real life" bc truly, we comprise the REALEST people on earth!
What may have started out as a lark or a time killer or asking a simple question about an annoying elder has, for many of us, turned into a very real support network of folks that care more about us than some of our own family. Our chosen family can often make more impact on our lives than our given families.
Stay and fight the good fight with the newbies and the "old timers" who know how real the deal is here. Avoid the nonsense and type out your comments in Word or copy paste them before you hit Post Comment. Share your wisdom with people who are desperate to hear it, whether you realize it or not. You do make a difference bc you have for ME. Thank you.
We all need one another here, more than we may even realize. My prayer tonight is that the admin and IT dept at A.C. see what a valuable support tool they have here, and get off their azzes to fix a problem that should have resolved long ago.
Xoxo 😘 Xoxo
How exceptionally beautiful your message to RR is. I read it three times. It is incredibly beautiful.
RR, if this won't make you stay, then nothing will, and if you want to move on, truly WANT THAT, then I will have to let you. But I hope you will stay. Take vacations from it if you need to, but I hope you won't leave us. I so agree with Lea, that there are times we help that we don't know until a lot later if at all. You have always had such good solid advice for people. Don't leave.
Lea, thanks again for one more visual of your lovely heart. No surprise you have all the love you have. No surprise at all.
I am still being booted off randomly, before it happened whenever I clicked on anything. So, improvement? Hopefully, the new admin will sort the problems out. I have been able to post 1 time without being bumped, yay! Maybe this post will make it the 2nd time.
I spoke to my mom's neighbors daughter, the one that helped her so much and her family is being blessed by the gifts from my mom and I am so very happy for them. The dogs are being cared for with lots of love, they are getting the long deferred vet care they needed, they are on diets, they are being pampered by their new doggy momma and that is the best news.
I want to say, I missed my mom's loss of function, when it should have been so obvious looking at her dogs. If you notice an otherwise well cared for animal being neglected or over fed or ???, please look closer. I thought it was my mom being her mentally ill self and hindsight tells me it was her losing the ability to see and process obvious chores and needs in everyday life. There is not much I could have done, except, get the dogs to the vet but, just knowing that things are becoming a challenge can help us be more compassionate and less frustrated and that is tremendously beneficial for all involved.
I will be around as I am able, I truly am busy beyond words, my day starts at 4:30am and I hit my pillow at 8:30pm, I am exhausted! But, things will calm down and I will have more then 10 minutes with my coffee in the morning to read and respond here.
Have a blessed day each and every one here!
Busy is happy. So if you are away because of that it's all good. Just know we miss you and want you back.
Great input about dogs, and noticing what's happening with our animals.
For indeed the suffering of the mother is a suffering for the whole family.
I pray that in this time you may draw them closer to each other. May your holy spirit strengthen them for the battle up ahead.
We as medical professionals do our part within our human limitations. I pray that you bless the medical staff assigned to her with wisdom and graceful hands.
And for what is beyond our human capabilities Lord; I pray to you, for all things are possible in your name.
I pray Lord that whatever the outcome your will be done....that you may have mercy on this family and strengthen their hearts.
Amen.
Hang in there friend. Its about to get rough. But
You make an excellent point about missing certain things. Great warning to people who have parents that have animals.
How many times does dementia go missed too? I bet many health situations aren’t picked up on immediately.
I believe that I definitely missed my mother’s early signs of dementia.
We all missed her early signs of Parkinson’s disease. Daddy took mom to the hospital for seizures that she was having and that is when she was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease.
My mom was very blessed with the care she received from ALL the medical professionals and caregivers.
Your prayer was answered, as were all of the prayers offered on her and our families behalf.
Your patients are lucky to have a praying doctor.
Amen to that 1,000,000x over. I think mine prays to the hair gel gods personally.
Life without the comfort of your mother being around.
I will continue to pray for you as you grieve.
Cuz Lord knows...thus grieving is hard. If anyone was looking at me too closely today...they probably would have seen the tears in my eyes.
@Alvadear and Leolonnie1 : thanks