This question is for Private Caregivers, and family Caregivers alike: how do you deal with a narcissistic 89 year old woman who is jealous, bitter, angry, and repeatedly talks about the same thing day in and day out. Someone who believes their life is or was so interesting, and only cares about listening to her own voice, and boring a** life?! I'm starting to avoid sitting down with her, and just being her companion because I can't take it anymore! Then she gets mad at me and says I'm ignoring her. The worst part of this is, she is my employer. So, I have to worry about losing my job if I don't keep her happy....but, I'm only human. 😟
I know it's trying but you can get her going in a different direction. How long is the shift? Do you have other responsibilities while you're there? Can you take care of your responsibilities and take care of her alternating between the two so you don't have to sit with her the entire time you're there?
This poor woman you are working for is 89 and sounds like she might have dementia. All you need to do is train yourself to not really listen but just make some comments here and there ("oh, really"). You can't expect to have a real conversation with her because she can't.
Now, where is her family? Did she hire you directly (probably not)? Go to the one who pays you and tell them you're done.
This kind of caregiving is burn out waiting to happen... what prevents you from seeking employment elsewhere? There is a huge demand for private caregivers.You can not MAKE her happy... so maybe it is time to start looking for another job..... sending you hugs, as I have been in your shoes.....