Ever just want to tear your hair out, or someone else's? If you cannot restore a sense of balance, you will run away from home? Just want to say some things without the constraints of staying on topic? Well, this thread is for you! If you just need a short break to let it all hang out, be a brat, then come on, you can do it. No holding back! Go for it, you can do it.
It does give a great glimpse into the fear the demented feel when they're alone and scared
God bless everyone on this journey
I went up to the NH for lunch today because I'm meeting some friends later (I usually go for dinner at 5:00). Lunch is always a sorry affair, especially for the pureed diets, because it is usually some type of cold plate or sandwich. Today M, mom's roomie, was begging please, please don't make me eat anymore. Now M does like to fuss, but she wasn't being in any way ambivalent, she adamantly refused her food. Or at least she tried to. Caregiver shoved most of it in anyway, despite protests and pleas to stop. Mom didn't want her lunch either, but she agreed to about half of her soup and a few mouthfuls of salad. I got her to try the "hot dog" but did not persist when she shook her head no. I DID insist on a glass of water. Caregiver kept questioning, I kept telling her mom was fine, she had had enough. This is just so wrong, even those with dementia should have the right to refuse their dinner. If the day comes when I am in that position I hope I have the wherewithal to clamp shut my jaw or to spit it in their face. Of course then they would probably medicate me into submission.
Mind you, you can strategically shovel food into a helpless old lady's mouth but you can't stop her spitting it out again. So maybe - fingers crossed - her eyes were smaller than her stomach this time?
Awful indeed
I have noticed at mom's facility people say no and turn their head away
I've also noticed the aides be in a rush and shovel faster than the pour soul can swallow
Although mom has no trouble feeding herself she is extremely slow and always the last one to finish the meal - in fact the staff is pulling the table cloth out from underneath her which unleashes the Viking in her - you don't disturb a wolf when it's eating
It is called: OTHER PEOPLE BEHAVING BADLY
It seemed a necessity since all these things are happening to my friends Mom's in the nursing home or Memory Care.
So, have at it, Cwillie, and MsMadge, or anyone else.
Of course, posting anywhere, (here too) is good, never off topic here!
Sorry those bad things are happening. Meals may be all that is left, and should be enjoyable, at any cost, imo.
I bought fixins for root beer floats and squirt guns
The foaming root beer would clog the squirt guns, imo.
White chocolate rasberry truffle ice cream, strawberry ice cream, sliced bananas, brownie bites, with strawberry preserves topping. It is diet due to NO whipped cream.
Add one Lactaid tablet. Yum!
My hubs and I already celebrated at the innnout place.
I just got back from shopping...
Oh, and I thought of you and your pets when we visited the dogs.
The res can fill the squirt guns with almost anything....pay backs for the really mean caregivers. Lol.
My Saturday night was nearly identical except I had cookies and cream on a cone
I see your point about filling the squirt guns with root beer better make it whisky
I am still sick but I am sure others will hold the fort down for you Send. Come back soon. We miss you when you are not here. :)
Yeah I'm not gonna lie, I was getting tired of your crap and just wanted to get back to the house. But, I kept on swinging and making sure you got yours too. All I have to say is... you attacked me, not once but twice, you punks! And as soon as I ran to the house and you all followed me in, this time I went ballistic and sprayed your butts.
I had no choice. I hate mosquitos!!! Mosquitoes are not my friends!!!
Copy and Paste to see if your friends read all the way through! 😛
Love,
from Sendhelp.
Slap Someone
And yell Mosquito!
More mosquito humor:
My life sucks. Other mosquito answers: Congratulations.
I hate mosquitoes. I know I am delicious, but da#n!
I don't care what people think of me. At least mosquitos find me attractive.
Mosquitos are like family. Annoying, but they carry your blood.
Arguing with stupid people is like killing a mosquito on your cheek. You might or might not kill it, but either way, you will end up slapping yourself.
It's mosquito season again......As if I didn't already have enough blood-sucking relatives in my family.
A mosquito landed on my brother's face....easiest decision of my life.
Persons of faith version:
Why didn't Noah swat those two mosquitos?
A mosquito landed on my friend's face, so I slapped him. Then there was another mosquito, so I said, Here, turn the other cheek.....
The pastor is so full of Christ that when a mosquito bites him, it flies away singing:
"There is power in the blood!"
Swat them away!
Thanks for returning to caregivers behaving badly!
Headline today: "Son 'killed mother in Christmas lunch row.'"
"A man killed his mother after she criticised his efforts at making Christmas lunch, a court heard.
Mark Jennens, 40, tried to throw 78-year-old Hazel Jennens out of a house they shared in a Christmas Eve row over potatoes, jurors were told.
He is alleged to have frogmarched his mother, who had osteoporosis and lung cancer, to the door before pushing her to the ground in 2015.
Ms Jennens... broke her hip and later died from bronchopneumonia in hospital.
Mr Jennens denies manslaughter. The trial... continues."
Given that the three purposes of criminal prosecution are supposed to be: punishment, deterrence and public interest, which of these is this particular charge supposed to be supporting? Does anyone imagine this poor bloke is going to feel any worse sitting in a prison cell than he already does anyway? Or that it will help to make sure he doesn't push his mother over again? Or that it will teach other caregivers that getting frustrated and physical with their sick mothers is wrong?
I suspect this verdict will depend a lot on who's on the jury.