Ever just want to tear your hair out, or someone else's? If you cannot restore a sense of balance, you will run away from home? Just want to say some things without the constraints of staying on topic? Well, this thread is for you! If you just need a short break to let it all hang out, be a brat, then come on, you can do it. No holding back! Go for it, you can do it.
I also swore to myself that the day after she died I would have the county's biggest ever bonfire, mainly of photos of penguins. I have at least got rid of most of the bloody penguins, but here we are 16 months on and I'm still painstakingly going through boxes.
8/25/2016
It's 3:00 am r u up?
I shouldN't read this when I'm punchy - I about fell out of my chair reading thankless' tale
My mom has decided that the only way for her to stay safe at her memory care center is to be scary so when a man approaches her that she doesn't like she'll say get away from me bringing a couple of men to tears
So tonight she announces she's not going to stay in this place and frankly I can't blame her - I'm trying to walk her down her hall since her caregiver is late and there's a new man outside her door in his boxers eating a cactus plant - decisions decisions - do I let someone know or do I say Bon appetite ?
So in her room we go and since we're still waiting for lab results to see if she has a UTI I suggest we try to wash down below - didn't go over well - she's had it with me and I'm not in charge of her and it's her body and yada yada yada.
When her overnight caregiver does show up she says to her thank god your here I can't stand that one referring to me - i usually leave some lifesavers and peppermint candy in her purse when I leave so tonight I decided to leave a different treat instead 🌵
2. Fill mums bag with something in fact anything which prevents her throwing soiled pads in amongst her handkerchiefs - yuk yuk
3.Take the bloody clock and throw it away - or buy one that says the time every five minutes
4. Hire a helper and tell Mum its a friend so she thinks she isn't paying for it
5. Tell Mum Heinz have brought out a new roast dinner soup when you offer her smoothie roast dinners you have turned into soup
6. Replace the door bell for a light in my room so I don't have to introduce everyone to my Mum
7. Widen the already over width doors to about 8 feet wide so mum doesn't crash into them when going 8 steps from chair to toilet
8.Tell Mum Church has closed down for lack of attendance so she doesn't witter when she is unwell
9. Exchange mums pills for sweeties when she demands painkillers all the time - oddly enough the sweets seem to be more effective!
10. Write deceased on begging letters and put em back in the post without a stamp
You did bloody well Veronica I had to think a lot - something I find very difficult!!!!
Another technique: For a spouse who doesn't have capacity, hide a very small amount of cash where he can steal it from your purse, put the rest some place safe. Don't forget the laundry quarters, keep the stash small.
Be a brat, Save a life!
Being a nurse, I know that she has to get "back in the saddle" to maintain her mobility. When I was there on Sunday, I got her up from bed and kept her standing for 2 minutes,all the while she was screaming directly in my face/ear with her mouth wide open, hollering at the top of her lungs. I felt bad but I knew "it was for her own good". I told her I was putting her in the wheelchair to go to the dining room. "I'm not hungry", she said. I took her there anyway. I told her I was leaving and, as soon as I was out of sight, she gobbled down the stew like she had't eaten for a week.
I started to feel bad, like a brat, 'cause I'm so mean with her (for her own good).
The next day I called the facility and the nurse told me she had walked to the bathroom, the nurse's station and the dining room!!! I was all a "show" for me. Damn, duped by my own mother..... and I know better.
Now, I'm GLAD I was a BRAT! ;)
1. Install second steering wheel in the car so Mom thinks she is still driving
2. Get grandpa a duplicate set of car keys that don't work,
3. Install digital lock on outside doors and don't tell anyone the combination.
4. Buy several identical sets of clothing for your loved one who insists on wearing the same thing every day
5. Fill an empty ice-cream container with a vegetable smoothie for your ice cream diabetic addict.
6. Make a recording of your voice full of Uha's, Really and Gotta go Mom see you soon for the frequent caller from Memory Care.
7. Put a set of bells on Mom's walker.
8. Put fake Money in Dad's wallet
9. Swap Mom's credit cards for ones that have expired.
10. Put fake pills in prescription bottles so you can give the correct dosage of the real ones.
There I made it to ten.
No there is one more
Print up fake checks to send donations to fake charities
Thanks for your contribution, Jude, and everyone! So funny!
She should get an extra award of 4 Weeks respite, imo.
You have every right to receive your brat badge back. Good job! Everyone would want you to have your hearts desire, after everything you have done for your Mum.
Have you had your coffee today?
Well all is OK except for mother thinking I AM THE DEVIL INCARNATE.. I told her I wasn't I was just a brat!
My mom is a brat but that is what keeps them going
Since someone is always trying to grab her walker away at memory care I put bright pink tennis balls on it along with a bell and a little pink beanie - peppa pig - I had no idea what a peppa pig is but I thought it appropriate because she likes to eat - she likes to joke and tell her favorite caregiver - who is kinda a big girl - look you look like the piggy 🐷
Well she's had this decoration for months but it suddenly disappeared Saturday and I have my suspicions who took it so when I go to the store to replace it I'm going to buy an xtra one and give it to this person just to see her reaction and then tell her I'm going to tell management what a wonderful job she's doing -NOT
Am I misunderstanding the previous posted reference?
because no matter how bratty someone is, they're not going to want mouse heads. ???
When hubby arrived he had indeed hanged himself and was hanging by a piece of electrical cord looking rather blue. after the man was dispatched to the hospital M found the wife sitting in the kitchen enjoying a cup of tea with her neighbor. Turns out this was a regular occurrence but the previous time the cord had snapped and the patient had tied the ends together to repair it. Unfortunately this shortened the cord so the man was no longer able to touch the floor with his tip toes.