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Glad, I am only 61, had my DD late in life ( my 30s) and DD is 31! My mom is in her late 80s. If his GS is in the teens he is a better man than I was a woman! Am I misreading something? I think some outside help would be a great idea. And where did the info about GS come from? I am lost here and need to catch up! Add on,, I just read the profile, and I still think the GS is older than a teen,, from the description provided.
Tucson, I am new here but just read your post. I can relate. I mean no disrespect but "'if" you have a church family have you made your burnout known to your pastor? Often many in the church are looking for a way to serve their brothers and sisters and would be blessed to volunteer a few hours a week to give you a break. Frequently they are those retired in good health who are bored and feeling useless. Its a win/win.
Having someone come into the home might be a good thing for your wife to change up the week for her too. This would be no cost to you but would give you a day to run errands or just do something for yourself. Blessings!
Amicable separations are wonderful, clearly you were both just worn out. Now grandson is supposed to be helping out. Since wife is just 66 this grandson must be quite young, in the mid to late teens at the most? Why is grandson there? Get him out, through eviction, if necessary. He is too young for that sort of responsibility.
You no longer want the care for your wife, I don't blame you, it is very hard and nearly impossible to live your own life.
Get with a law firm that deals with not only divorce, but elder law. You need to plan on how you are going to get wife into appropriate care without bankrupting you. There are Medicaid program to keep spouse from becoming impoverished.
I’m sorry your wife has so many medical problems for someone so young. What does her doctor say? Does she need 24/7 care? If so, I would start looking into placement at an assisted living facility (if there are funds), or more likely into long term care and possibly Medicaid. See an elder attorney for your options. There is a long road ahead which challenges even fully committed couples...I can’t imagine sacrificing myself for someone with whom I’ve separated. What if this goes on for another 5 years? 10 years? Look ahead....
Definitely get some services in there to take care of her so that you are able to have a life outside of caregiving. She may qualify for some assistance, otherwise I hope she has some money to pay for someone to help her out a little more.
You could consult with an elder attorney to see if finalizing a divorce would be wise. Or, contact the county social services to get her assessed for in-home services. But since you are only separated and not divorced, she may not qualify. Y Medicaid "look back" is 5 years. Since she is only 66 you should take care of things sooner rather than later. Who has her durable PoA? Who has yours? Hopefully you are getting your ducks in a row for your own future care.
Tucson, I read your profile and saw that your wife is only 66 years old, and has numerous health issues. I realize this isn't the type of future retirement that you nor your wife had envisioned. This isn't easy for her, either.
Would it be possible to budget for a caregiver to come in once or twice a week for a few hours to free up some time for you? If not, is your wife on Medicaid [which is different from Medicare] to check to see what programs are available to help her?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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Having someone come into the home might be a good thing for your wife to change up the week for her too. This would be no cost to you but would give you a day to run errands or just do something for yourself. Blessings!
You no longer want the care for your wife, I don't blame you, it is very hard and nearly impossible to live your own life.
Get with a law firm that deals with not only divorce, but elder law. You need to plan on how you are going to get wife into appropriate care without bankrupting you. There are Medicaid program to keep spouse from becoming impoverished.
Would it be possible to budget for a caregiver to come in once or twice a week for a few hours to free up some time for you? If not, is your wife on Medicaid [which is different from Medicare] to check to see what programs are available to help her?