Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
Everyone thinks, that the adopted dad had something to do with it. Him and the adopted mom, moved away. His adopted GMA, has been his voice, and support ever since. I except, GMA has nothing to do with her daughter either.
17 long years we have been thinking about Jaliek, and praying for him to be found, and hopping it leads to his adopted fathers arrest.
Hopefully will know soon! 😥, it's quite an emotional time.
They just found remains of a young person in a near by town, they think it's him.
😥, are town never forgot him.
I don’t know if they apply to your situation down the thread but even if they don’t, they are fascinating.
Im asking because I've considered getting tested for dyslexia, I just feel a bit somewhat of a lier saying I am when I don't have the official diagnosis.
But I don't feel like it's worth the money or time, I decided I identify with dyslexics so I'm not lying, and going to forget that Idea.
So if you decide not to just do like I'm gonna do.
I'm curious, if I'm overstepping no worries, please don't take offence but was it you that wanted to get tested for autism? I'm just curious if and how that went
My last degree is nearly finished and looking into a career as a librarian at the elementary to middle school level. I did that for one year and liked it so hope I can find something again, but probably not in this area.
I think you are so right about not being able to understand evil people when you aren't one.
I recently heard a thing from a bunch of psychologists who said that the prison system should not be counseling psychopatic personalities. They feel this is almost certainly a "brain thing" that can't be hurt, but WORSE is that the psychologists say they are USING THEM to learn. They practice all the things to say "They found faith", they "understand what happened to them due to whatever and are working on it" and on and on.
The shrinks all say that they are just being used, and that they are realizing they are being told exactly what they want to hear because the psychotics are masters of manipulation and completely without morals and empathy. Amoral.
It was pretty fascinating.
In my humble opinion, just steer clear of the real sick folks out there to the best of your ability.
I found out its very deep, I just don't think I can be friends with some that has so much hate in her heart.
My younger brother, is the evil one you talk about bundle.
How many times in my life I've met someone and was thinking, 🤔 hummmm, but ignored my gut, only to find out later that I should of listened to my gut
I also strongly agree with if they come on too strong. I met a lady during the pandemic, was lonely , she asked me if I wanted to go for a walk with her. I did, she said things like , we are best friends now and we are going to do this and that. My red flags went up and I never did anything with her again.
People that come on too strong are a huge red flag.
My sister will be alone in a room with me, agree with everything I say, and then I hear her alone with my brother agree with everything he says. Me and my older brother are on complete opposite sides of the fence. We have learned to not discuss curtain issues, and do well , navigating are differences, but my sister agreeing with both sides is another huge red flag for me. That she is not real or trust worthy
the best advice i’ve seen against toxic/fake/narcs/sociopaths:
from an article:
How can you tell if someone is evil?
Believe me, they almost always pose as the angel of light and since they are brilliant actors, they MAY quickly pass through your radar.
I have dealt with some and believe me, I never suspected the depth of their evilness until I got the hit. Then a new individual surfaced full of such hatred that to me is not human. It is just too deep.
Let me give you some clues how to detect them:
Always lead your life on full alert. Your radar must be on 24/7 because if you are not, they will create devastation without you even realizing what they are really doing.
Never trust anyone unless that person has PROVED he/she can be trusted. Test people for your own safety.
Listen to your gut ALWAYS. If your gut says beware, then run for your life. Your gut is right and you are wrong.
Whenever you feel in conflict, that is your mind wants to take you one direction and your heart somewhere else, ALWAYS listen to your head. Simply because your heart may easily take you to suicide.
Learn about narcissism. It may be life saving for you. Anyone who gaslights, guilt trips, rages or wishes to play the victim role, must be removed from your life. No ifs and no buts.
Evil people are normally charmers. Without your knowledge, they can manipulate your love hormones out the roof. Believe it because I am not joking. And they have the same effect on children too. I watched it happen with my own eyes.
Play safe. Today with internet, life is becoming dangerous. Stop trusting strangers. Do not chat with anyone that you do not know in flesh.
Narcissists are already in your living room, the minute you switch on your internet. Beware.
If you want to date, beware of prince/princess charming. The story always starts like a fairy tale and ALWAYS ends with hell on Earth.
A normal human being always, always takes dating gradually. Simply because there are real risks. Anyone being INTENSE, MEANS YOU SHUT OFF THAT PERSON OUT OF YOUR LIFE WITHOUT GIVING ANY EXPLANATIONS. Why? The manipulation has already started.
Teach your children life skills. Do not let them walk beside vans that can open their doors on the side. Too many kids have been pulled inside whilst they were innocently walking to school.
Stop giving supply to evil people. They enjoy seeing us tormented and angry. To them that means they have power over us. Their ability to change our mood and give us a bad day. No reaction is best.
Evil people are all master manipulators. You do not have an evil mind and so, you can never be a match whether that is revenge or whatever.
Beware of emotional connections. Narcissists want a fast emotional connection because they know that once they have that to us, we are SNARED sometimes forever. Listen to advice from people who love you, especially if you are young. They lived longer and have better life experience.
here are some useful quotes!
"A real situation will always expose a fake friend."
"Having fake friends is like having a broken umbrella -
unless when it rains."
It's just a fact of life
Maybe there is an alcohol or an addiction issue with your friend?
It is hard , we are in an era that loneliness is an epidemic, and loneliness is very unhealthy too. I'm not sure if it's age or every age. I got rid of my friends that abuse alcohol because, I just can't handle them anymore. It's not and easy time for a lot of people, your not alone
It’s like that quote:
“When people show you who they are, believe them.”
It just freaked me out a little,
Maybe your friend is bipolar?
Very sorry, it just made me wonder
Maybe I'm really being paranoid, but are you her?