Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
2023 has been strange to say the least.
I have hopes, dreams, aspirations and desire to change many things.
Day or two ago dietitian on TV said how she was anti-diet being one of popular resolution for new year.
We all fail, so enjoy that slice of cake or chocolate once in awhile. We deserve it.
Wishing everyone peace and good health.
And most importantly care about yourself as much as you care about others!
You can remind her that she lives in a retirement community now where she has friends , activities and staff to wait on her .
I’m sorry but you will be repeating the same thing over and over again .
Joyful Xmas to all caregivers.
New Year to bring resolutions and peace.
Christmas blessings to you and yours!
Seriously, everybody is helpful, even constructive criticism is helpful, only few people could not tolerate it.
Reddit used to be the hip place for teens and slightly older, now a lot of those same people are in their 30's so I find stuff they say a little more relatable. It can be fun to scroll through the hot posts of the day.
Do you have Forums there that you enjoy that are normally "normal", or on the better side of normal like ALL of us at AC?
Anyway, I trust you! You can handle these folks with one hand tied behind your back!
Maybe my brother (her husband) put her up to asking me for coffee cause the invite kind of came out of the blue. Like I said, I don't trust my family. Although my SIL is a sweet, kind person so even if this were the case I'm not mad about it.
Remembering this can help us stay in the present, hopefully, with Thanksgiving and gratitude.
I love your words on this topic. I feel very much the same way. It’s called, ‘living in the moment.’ Thanks for this reminder.
People can get caught up in their emotions and tend to live in the past far more than they should.
It’s fine to visit the past occasionally. We shouldn’t become stuck in the past. Like you, I do think we should have a realistic view of the past instead of glamorizing it.
At some point we must learn to enjoy the present. That is what our loved ones who are gone now would want for us.
But there are many memories of him that aren’t so good, and I have no regrets that we parted. Even fewer that I am now married to Tony.
So enjoy the happy memories, but don’t let them trick you into being miserable that they are gone!
I can relate to what you’re saying. There have been many times when I miss someone so deeply that I long to be with them again.
Naturally, we will always remember the people who brought meaning and purpose in our lives.
You are grieving and experiencing normal feelings during this time. I’m so very sorry for your loss.
I’m grieving the loss of my older brother who died recently. It’s hard to lose people that we love so much.
I loved my parents dearly. I was also close to my mother in law who was a lifeline for me at times. We can feel lost without them.
Even though they no longer share our physical world with us, they left us with so many precious memories for us to cherish.
Sometimes I get very sad when I am reminiscing and other times I smile because I am filled with joy that I had them in my life.
Take comfort in knowing that you were deeply loved by your mom. Wishing you peace during this holiday season.
I have those moments too. It’s normal for memories to come to the surface occasionally.
Your mom would understand how you are feeling but she would also want you to celebrate her life and feel joy.
You had an incredible bond with your mother. That bond will never die. Just because someone is no longer here with us doesn’t mean that we don’t feel their presence in our lives.
I don’t think we can ever forget about people who we loved so deeply.
The holidays can be a difficult time for people who miss their loved ones.
Sending tons of hugs your way!
Do you think that your Sil minded that you cried?
She probably feels closer to you that you trusted her enough to be yourself around her.
What do you think?