okay, guess I'm stupid and you're always right. He then will start asking me if I want a divorce, and says he can fix that, the next hurtful thing is, I don't need you...you need me!
Then silence. I find that since his hearing is so bad, he sometimes thinks I have said something other than what I said, seems to always be on the defense, hard to get any conversations going with that in mind.
I just go day to day and try to keep things light, or is the other word for it...walk on egg shells?
You have a lot of family, I imagine some are helpful and some are not. Try getting some kind of respite situation worked out amongst the family first--if you find it is wearing you to a nub--look into long term care.
My grandma's worst fear was that granddad would "outlive" her love for him. He almost did. When he became foul mouthed (and THAT was NOT GP!!) and a little physical towards her, they had him placed in a close-by nursing home. He died very shortly thereafter, but didn't get the "chance" to break grandma's heart.
You know his brain is broken, right? The things he says--they're not how he feels. I know it still hurts though.
Is this new behavior? If his behavior represents a change in mental status, please find a way to get him in to see his doc. He could have a UTI, have had a TIA or some other " event" that is causing cognitive / personality changes.
Lat us know what happens; we care! ((((((((Hugs))))))