My mom's major problem with dementia at this time is Shadowing. She follows me everywhere. It even caused her to slip out of bed and fall looking for me even though I told her I was getting up. My theory is you hear a lot of stories of people that have died leave all or most of their wealth or goods to their "caregiver " and leaving out the "family". Could that be because of the attachment the individual has with the "caregiver" because of dementia and Shadowing and because no longer an association with family members. You hear sometimes people say "Oh my uncle left everything to the aid in his Last Will," Just a theory what does anyone else think?
Interesting response CM. Wouldn't you know someone would write about it. Now to find the rest of it.
On the other hand, if a very rich very elderly but compos mentis person finds that his aides are caring for him in a way that contrasts cruelly with what the "nearest and dearest" were ever prepared to do, it's not so surprising if he decides to leave his cash where the credit is due.
Hilaire Belloc wrote a poem about it - 'John Vavassour de Quentin Jones' - which ends:
"... And Uncle William ran his pen
Through 'well-beloved John,' and then
Proceeded, in the place of same,
To substitute Miss Charming's name:
Who now resides in Portman Square
And is accepted everywhere."