My husband and I (both in our late 40s) were discussing how much we hate this phrase from our Dads. Mine is in AL and older, but his is still the same, at home with my MIL. (Who is very active and does everything now)
What I say to my Dad is "I work hard too" but I don't think he gets it at all.
I feel like saying "nobody's expecting you to go down the mines or something at 80, but you could bring in your own plate once in awhile."!!
I just struggle with the entitlement. People aren't owed being waited on, no matter how hard they "worked all their life."