Mom is constantly changing her mind or forgetting about the plan. She is not safe to stay alone another winter. We are starting companion services this week for 8 hours a week. I am her main caregiver as well as caregiver for my husband who is oxygen dependant. I work full time as a home health nurse. My family is supportive but all live out of state and are unable to help with day to day care. I am so overwhelmed.
Call the AL's in your area. Find a couple that are within your mom's budget, offer the right services and are close enough to you to be convenient. Then, if there's a choice to be made, take your mom to visit two of them. Let her pick if that process won't be too upsetting.
It would be good to go on the tours with a sibling so you're not the only one choosing in the event that mom hates the AL "that Barb picked".
In your profession, you're in a good position to judge the care. Be sure to sit down with the director of nursing and have a frank discussion to make sure your mom will be able to stay there as her dementia progresses.