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She walks around the house getting into everything . Messing in are food, taking things out of the freezer. Doesn't what to go out anywhere just does the same things over and over again .
1) Take some breaks! Respite is absolutely essential for any caregiver and especially for those caring for someone with dementia. You need to get away for a few hours regularly and for longer periods periodically. I know that finding and arranging for someone to stay with your loved one can feel like one more thing to add to an already crowded to-do list, but it needs to be done. 2) Learn as much as you can about the disease your mother has. It can help to know what to expect, and to have "official" confirmation that Mom isn't doing these things to aggravate you. She can't help it. 3) Be prepared to evaluate the situation objectively, and to get help if/when it becomes too much for one person to handle. Bring in help, or arrange for Mom to be cared for in an appropriate care center. You job is to see that she gets the best care possible, but with dementia it may not always be possible to provide it all on your own.
@ lincol i hope you can get calmed down. my mother has a mixed dx of bipolar and dementia. as her moods shift the people around her are on a rocket sled ride too. you dont take many emotional actions on your own. everything is a reaction to the crazy that youre dealing with. the reactions cause you to make irrational decisions sometimes. i dont have any solution for you im just suggesting that you not blame yourself.the crazy affects everyone involved. families respond negatively to each other. health care workers even draw irrational conclusions . ive seen my own family going in ten different directions at one time. each were on various missions as directed by " crazy " and sometimes there were collision courses predestined. sorry, im bout as bent up as you are today and no doubt babbling..
lincol, I don't know how your relationship with your mother was before she became ill. Sometimes it helps to remember the person they were, and know that they would never have done these things before. The disease is making Swiss cheese of their brains and life has become confusion. It can be hard to realize that they aren't doing things purposely to irritate. Things in life are just not making sense anymore.
Living with someone with Alz can be inconvenient. If your mother has a habit of going in the freezer, a lock on the door would solve the problem. Cabinets can also be locked. It is a bit like child-proofing. Harmful things should also be locked away, so she won't become confused and swallow something bad for her.
If things have become too much to try to keep her at home, it may be time for her to live in a facility for people with Alz. It is a difficult decision, but nothing about Alz is easy. You are a wonderful daughter for trying to take care of her. Sometimes it can just become too much trying to keep someone at home.
* sigh * what mekes it worse is the character traits that youve wanted to strangle them for 50 years over are still evident and indeed amplified. my mothers thing has always been blubbering like a two year old in an attempt to gain sympathy and control. well it certainly hasnt gotten better. fortunately ive never responded to such drivel so its increasingly becoming pointless for her to try it. but its still enough to drive ya NUTS most days..
Providing 24 hour supervision to someone in that stage of dementia and still totally mobile is like the "black hole" phase of toddler care (mobile but no judgement or safety awareness, about 9-20 months or so) except there is no hope they will grow out of it, and it is a lot sadder to see a loved one in such a state... do you have any options? any help?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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1) Take some breaks! Respite is absolutely essential for any caregiver and especially for those caring for someone with dementia. You need to get away for a few hours regularly and for longer periods periodically. I know that finding and arranging for someone to stay with your loved one can feel like one more thing to add to an already crowded to-do list, but it needs to be done.
2) Learn as much as you can about the disease your mother has. It can help to know what to expect, and to have "official" confirmation that Mom isn't doing these things to aggravate you. She can't help it.
3) Be prepared to evaluate the situation objectively, and to get help if/when it becomes too much for one person to handle. Bring in help, or arrange for Mom to be cared for in an appropriate care center. You job is to see that she gets the best care possible, but with dementia it may not always be possible to provide it all on your own.
Good luck!
i hope you can get calmed down. my mother has a mixed dx of bipolar and dementia. as her moods shift the people around her are on a rocket sled ride too. you dont take many emotional actions on your own. everything is a reaction to the crazy that youre dealing with. the reactions cause you to make irrational decisions sometimes. i dont have any solution for you im just suggesting that you not blame yourself.the crazy affects everyone involved. families respond negatively to each other. health care workers even draw irrational conclusions . ive seen my own family going in ten different directions at one time. each were on various missions as directed by " crazy " and sometimes there were collision courses predestined. sorry, im bout as bent up as you are today and no doubt babbling..
Living with someone with Alz can be inconvenient. If your mother has a habit of going in the freezer, a lock on the door would solve the problem. Cabinets can also be locked. It is a bit like child-proofing. Harmful things should also be locked away, so she won't become confused and swallow something bad for her.
If things have become too much to try to keep her at home, it may be time for her to live in a facility for people with Alz. It is a difficult decision, but nothing about Alz is easy. You are a wonderful daughter for trying to take care of her. Sometimes it can just become too much trying to keep someone at home.
what mekes it worse is the character traits that youve wanted to strangle them for 50 years over are still evident and indeed amplified. my mothers thing has always been blubbering like a two year old in an attempt to gain sympathy and control. well it certainly hasnt gotten better. fortunately ive never responded to such drivel so its increasingly becoming pointless for her to try it. but its still enough to drive ya NUTS most days..