Mom was sent to rehab/SNF by her doctor after a hospitalization. She refuses to eat or drink for days, then becomes delirious. This has triggered dementia and now behavior issues. She is not mobile but tries to get out of her bed/wheelchair. Curses at me when I visit because I correct her when she lies. She has visions. Sees people in the closet and in her bed. I do not want to bring her home, because there is no one else to care for her. She is 94 years old.
I hired a lawyer. It is the last of mom's savings. Honestly everything said on this forum is true. Even the lawyer said so, but it was implied that the facility is just gonna take their sweet time.e.g. Day 101. And then bombard me with threatening letters, Medicare will stop paying and the SNF will threaten as well, legally I am not responsible for mom's bills, after it got really really ugly and just maybe I found some money under a rock, then they would submit all the documents I provided in September and apply for Medicaid on mom's behalf................no way can I go through that , I have been care taking for many years, time for this to be setteled. By paying a lawyer, he will file the documents, and immediately call the facility on mom's behalf, he also told me that she can stay at that facility.....my request since it is close to where I live,mom has adjusted to the place and would freak out if moved! He said that once a lawyer gets involved word gets out in the facility=better treatment. It is a shame that mom paid taxes all her life and still pays $100 per month out of her se check for Medicare... this should be enough to take care of the elderly.......oh well, if anyone out there wants details (personal) send me your email and I will discuss off the boards.......if you are a caretaker, still working, no help from relatives, wishing there was a way to get your life and your health back...this forum helped me during the past 5 months
Ask for the very best outcome for everyone involved and be prepared! Thanks everyone for your advice and your input!
I know call a lawyer... I do not have POA mom has full blown dementia now she is incapable of signing any document.
Do NOT sign anything that states that YOU will be responsible for payment to the NH is Medicaid is not approved. Either mom signs the paperwork or you sign it "Mary Jones in her capacity as POA to Jane Doe".
They will do everything they can to guilt you into taking her home...even imply Mom would be discharged to the street.
Do not fall for any of it.
They must transfer to a facility ... or keep her till they can.
Period
Facility called me today, said they will give me a list of facilities I need to pick because the y do not have a long term bed. What is the definition of a short term stay? She has been there 7 weeks.
I read on Medicare.gov that mom cannot be forced to move if she has applied for Medicaid, or if under appeal. Will they work harder to get her approved if she stays?
All of this is stated in the patients bill of rights
Lately mom has been asking me to pack her suitcase because she has to leave, she doesn't have money, the "nice"lady from downstairs visited her and told her so...........are they trying to intimidate mom?........I am pretty much venting here, I know my rights . She has applied for long term care thru Medicaid and they have to keep her during the process.
You are an awesome daughter; making these decisions for our parents is excruciatingly hard!
Have you had her seen by the geriatric psychiatrist at the nursing home?
You don't correct a dementia patient, because they aren't " lies", they are delusions.
Read everything you can about dementia on here. Watch videos by Teepa Snow.