My mom thought she could care for herself and could continue to live alone. However her dementia had progressed beyond that possibilty. We basically tricked into going to an assisted living facility close to my sister. I live in Tennessee and she lives in California. It has been 2 weeks and she is angry and obsessed about being taken, unwillingly, from her home. These last 3 years I have begged her to come and live with me.....or let us find a facility in California that she liked. She would hear nothing of it. We made the decision for her and she is furious. Although see regularly forgot where she lived before this move....she has not forgotten that she was forced to move!!!! She continues to be confused about most other things.
Any advice or words of wisdom? Thank you
I actually made a appointment with her favorite doctor whom she trusts and explained all fo the "crises" we had endured the past 3 years. He suggested that I bring her for an appointment with him and he told her what a GREAT decision SHE had made to move into assisted living considering her current health issues.
I'm not sure how he did it, but after that she thought the decision was all hers! That was GREAT! We ran with that and after 2 months - it's still "sticking" with her.
He also prescribed resperidone which has been a miracle drug for her hostile behavior towards me and her best friend.
Good luck!!
My mother-in-law still says she wants to 'go home', but she knows that will never happen. I did find out though, that what she wants is a time machine and go back to living in the house she shared with her husband and boys, when she was whole and happy. It's not so much the little house, as it was the 'home'. Good luck.