She’s always been very strong willed, hardheaded, sassy little spit fire that never mixed her words. You always knew where she stood. The support & backbone of our family. Her love, dedication and protection of her children and grandchildren was fierce to say the least. I’ve ALWAYS, had a special place in her heart. She’s always defended me and stood beside me.
Now, her words have turned into daggers. She has more bad days than good. My grandpa is living in pure hell. He’s a wonderful man, who has always been deeply in love with his bride. I can’t even explain how pure hearted this man truly is. My grandma is verbally abusive to him on daily basis now. Actually, to anyone in her path. I tried to ignore it, I tried to redirect it. I’ve tried explaining it off to other family members, that she doesn’t know what she’s doing or saying. Honestly, I’m not so sure! Her behavior is baffling to me. She tells everyone that comes in contact with her, that my grandpa is cheating on her, sneaking women into the house. There is never a moment she’s not with him. She hides can goods in the closet at night. She flies off the handle and flips out on anyone. Even willing to push her children out of her life. (So not her) I can’t handle the aggression and belittling and the foul language. I’ve quit going around or calling as much. My aunt suggested they sell their home and move into an assisted living home. My grandma flipped out, called me crying, pleading that she needed me badly, that they were gonna lock her up. (My heart 💔). The next morning she went to her doctor, who told her she was fine and nobody could lock her up without his signature. That she gets around better than anyone he knows at her age. Yesterday, she called me ANGRY, with words that can cut. She started telling me that she knew the reason I wasn’t coming around, my daddy has told me not too. (Crazy) I lovingly, softly tried to explain, that just was not the case. She told me I was lying and she could care less if he ever came back over there! (Wow) Said some other ugly things and hung up on me.
She doesn’t know she needs help and my grandpa won’t dare go against her wishes.
Sorry, for being so wordy, actually felt good to get at least some of it out. Thank you, for taking time to read. Pray for her and us. Hope my family survives intact.
To be honest, I hope that she does end up in the ER, so that we can get her the help she needs and deserves.
(nothing serious)
Something has to give.
How can a elderly demented person, remember a phone number or where to find the phone number? How can she still be cooking full meals? Keeping their clothes washed up. Its just baffling to me.
Best of luck & bravo to you for being such a loving granddaughter.
Some meds can be crushed and given in pudding or applesauce.
Does grandpa understand that this is dementia taking over?
We’ve tried telling him that he’s going to have to. I think he’s worried about the backlash. Plus, I think he feels he can handle it.
Something has to give.
Thank you for your reply.
Is grandpa in touch with her doctor? There are meds that can help.