Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
Vent here.
Solve problems here.
We will all listen to you.
Do not vent to kids. They will throw you under the bus and exaggerate everything you ever told them.
You can also talk to a professional, financial planner, geriatric care manager, or a counselor.
I don’t feel sorry, and I don’t think it’s a loss either.
Rather cold statement, polar and not your place to even think you know how others should feel.
It is not your place to tell me what I should feel or not feel. It’s rather hypocritical of you.
― Dietrich Bonhoeffer
I think it's wrong to expect that anyone is going to be able to somehow say just the right words. I know I struggle with it when it's someone else who has experienced a loss. I think most people's hearts are in the right place with what they try to say.
When I lost my cat recently my one sister said nothing when I told her. While a cat isn't the same as losing a spouse or a parent it's still a loss. I resented the fact she chose to say nothing. Even an a I'm sorry is better than stony silence. Just my opinion.
Only 1/3rd is likely to be 'end of life care', at the most, on the average, if it happens that way.
2/3rds of their life is also gone when they pass. The part that was happy, productive, and enjoyable. The part we miss.
When I say, Sorry for your loss, it is about the loss of a person's whole life, not just at the end.
I understand how Polarbear may feel when someone's death is a welcome relief, not saying sorry for your loss, and struggling to know what should be said in those circumstances to comfort a person after such a difficult period of time.
My bird and I were watching a relaxing bird video for budgies, meant for relaxing. In the middle, the screen went black, an advertisement came on by the Humane society: "Some people say this is a sport", and a video of a rhino
being shot, falling dead flashes before my eyes. Sound effects.
Turned off Youtube. I will be boycotting Youtube, because I cannot watch this kind of brutality. Will that help? Will they get the message, we just don't want to see that?
Then, you pause just a moment, and hear talking, talking from a program you would never select. Wait, who said that? It is playing without you clicking on the program.
NO, NO! NOOOOO!
Not friendly to the elderly!
For those of us who still like to choose, this is extremely disturbing!
It is going to scare any elderly with alzheimers, and confuse them.
You are always nice Llama.
Some of you sound as if you're sorry when anyone dies and that it is a loss. That's not how I feel.
Sorry for the loss of your dear cat. Hope you find peace and contentment with the memories of the little one. Animals are part of the family and we treasure them and love them. Sending you a big hug.
Yes there are many posts (too many) from people who seem to be caught up in dysfunctional family dynamics and are caring for abusers, the weird thing there is that often those are the people having great difficulty dealing with their loss.
And I do honestly feel sorrow for every death and loss; for the wasted lives, for the people who are so damaged they have rejected and damaged every opportunity to accept love and comfort from those closest to them.
gently falling down and
covering the ground.
It's a Winter Wonderland!
😭😭😭
I don't think I'm mean spirited at all. Sometimes I wonder if maybe the stork brought me and maybe I'm not related to them at all.
I try to not hold grudges but it isn't easy sometimes I'll tell ya.
Once again I'm having the yearly debate about Christmas and whether I'm willing to spend it in their company. Two siblings have already bowed out of the get-together so now I'm wondering if I should try to hold up what's left of the fort by making an appearance. I don't know. It's hard to do the right thing sometimes especially when you aren't even sure what that is.
Be safe and I hope that your mom isn't suffering.
Got my results back today and tests came back negative. My primary said it is dry skin use a moisturizer such as Aveeno. Thank you all for your prayers.