Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
Thx cw, My puttering away at downsizing actually has accomplished a reasonable amount. But I still have more to do.
That's wonderful youv'e found a new place and you took the big step~
GOOD JOB!
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY EARLY SEND!
Long gloomy day in Illinois! Poured rain all day. My son picked up our new van today. Wheelchair accessible, so he'll be able to take me out sometimes. My first outing will be to my grandson's ice hockey game Saturday afternoon if doctor approves me going out. My stepson and his wife left to go back to Maine. I'll miss them.
lu - that's what I was thinking with Rocky. I may have to stay with dd for a short while in transition and she has 2 cats and a dog. But if Rocky is with me (and my plush camo blanket) I think she will be OK. One of the cats has visited here on a leash and Rocky was cautious but not freaked out. She actually looked a bit interested.
this is more of a comment to myself, but i feel like writing it anyway.
...often one feels like only mentioning when things go badly
...and one forgets to mention, when things go well!
i am sooo glad the private caregivers we have do such a great job.
kind, caring, sweet, competent.
obviously this is very good for my LOs.
BUT also it's muccccch better for me.
i am much less stressed.
before these caregivers, we had other ones.
not good.
then, they did something awful.
i interviewed many new ones.
i decided on the ones we have now.
they're really nice. and they're in a verrry sweet mood, every day, while they help my LOs. they also already helped during an emergency and did a great job. extremely luckily, my LOs are fine.
soooo, this is just to say (i tell them this directly too, often), that i'm really glad we have them.
at xmas time we had a lot of fun together -- i gave them reindeer antlers, and we all wore them daily, while we helped out my LOs and created a wonderful xmas for them.
in the mornings, my father would wake up and see a face in front of him with 2 big reindeer antlers.
bundle of joy :)
Google "OT and wheelchair users" and you will see why the OT is coming to visit.
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Snow, snow and more snow. Long, boring day in the nursing home.
I am relieved to hear that she is being admitted overnight where she can be taken care of.
A really abusive letter from your step mother? After Dad has died?
What kind of sick person does that? This sounds serious. Like serious pain.
We are here for you. Share what you feel comfortable with. Let's get it out, when you are ready. Do you want to start your own thread, or talk with someone by private message? I can recommend a few good longtime forum members that you may already know? I won't push.
How can we help?
Do you still have Merlin-cat with you? 🐱 How is he taking the losses in your family, and the recent loss of Arthur? (I looked it up).
Thank you for getting back to us, and answering my question about Merlin.
I did not see any sign of anger from you at receiving such a shocking letter with false accusations from what appears to be a really mean person. You must have been deceived and knocked for a loop by her words. Your good relationship with your Dad was just as you always thought it was, between the two of you. That was and still is the truth you need to accept.
The thing is, a narcissist (or other descriptions of evil) will take a grain of truth and twist it into lies and hateful accusations. Even though you are a smart person, you were vulnerable and took what your stepmother said as having credibility (when it did not), and was twisted lies.
Depression (which you describe so accurately with the symptoms of clinical depression) is often called 'anger turned inward'. The anger you might have felt for your stepmother was unexpressed. Your mind and body are amazing in the way it protects you from further harm. Anger turned inward. So glad you went for some help.
You can, and you are, rising above this assault towards you. Believe your therapist/counselors when they advise no direct contact. You may not be aware that a person like your stepmother can and will get to you through your husband. Maybe consider going full on no contact when you talk to your therapist. She may be dangerous to yourself and your family, it sounds like.
Depression is a major health issue. But you can be healed. I am sure of it.
As I write this to you, I wonder who am I to be trying to speak into your life, barely knowing you. Somehow, I hope this helps you. Time will help too.
Spend time with the people I know on here, who have walked the path.
You are a good person Chriscat! So sorry for your too many recent losses.
Maybe vitamin supplements can help.
Thank you for your supportive words, and your heart to share help, as well as receive help.
You can see a doctor, and explain you would like to avoid medication. A good doctor can advise you. If you have only received counseling, and not a diagnosis from a doctor, that may help.
Today is National Love your pet day! Wherever anyone lives, we can all get on board with that!
When a person breaks their arm, people rush to sign their cast and offer support. It is not like that with depression, except to rush the person to cheer up. But it takes time. Do not receive any criticism, instead, receive hugs!
Here are a few hugs....[[[[[[hugs!]]]]]] {{hug}} 🧸️🧸️
🧸️ bear hug
🧸️signing your cast.
I've had no contact with my siblings. Covid helped with that. No Christmas strife for the last two years. It's amazing how my perspective has changed. Every Christmas I would feel so depressed and after really angry. I've realized that it's not Christmas I hate. It's the way I felt after being with family.
I used to think it was me and somehow I was the problem. It's been since my mom's death that I have done some good prayer and soul searching and learned to avoid toxic people even if those toxic people are family.
Keep reaching out Chriscat. We all love you and want to help.
Send and gershun have nailed it well. Look after you even if it means going no contact. It's about protecting yourself. Don't doubt your relationship with your dad. She is trying to upset you. Counselling can be very helpful. Keep letting us know how you are doing
gershun - I am so glad you are seeing that the difficulties with your family are not you and that toxic people, even family, are to be avoided
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Good news - my daughter is home from hospital and feeling much better. Now she knows her weak spots and has to build herself up for the chemo session and take preventative action as much as possible.
Golden, Glad that your daughter is home from the hospital.
Becky, I'm hoping for you that assisted living is soon so you can feel more independent.