Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
Met an adventurous older lady today. Said she left for a holiday a few years ago... Left her hot, dry, boring state of abode, found a place with mountains, beaches, rivers. She loved it so much she just never went back!
Sigh.. maybe sometimes being wildly impulsive instead of always being sensible & practical pays off?
I too am happy to be merely at home today 😊. But I AM on the lookout for that magic mountain, beach, river land!
Except for Captain of course! The lady from probably Guam who worked at a travel agents and took care of her dad.. with the family in the US. And the lady who lost her hubs right after she moved to Maryland near her DD who was a vet. And the lady with the very, very long posts who took care of her mother until her moms death. I think it's likely that no family thinks to to update us when something happens. Or they just go on with thier lives! As they should
Are you thinking of Veronica?
And the originator of the very popular What's for Dinner thread (BoniChak) is another one who had health problems and then disappeared. I do get that people move on but you can't help but imagine the worst.
Remember Sharadale from Florida? I think it was sharadale? I used to talk to her a lot. And Stacey who had her F I L living with her. I think she and her husband went into assisted living just before she stopped posting.
I wish the admin. could make arrangements so that they could e-mail past members and then let us know. But I guess that might be considered an invasion of privacy.
I just did that with Sharadale's name and scrolled down and saw other names from the past.
CW, I also get concerned when someone reports they have a new Dx or are ill, and then they stop posting completely soon after.
There is another one whose name I can't come up with, who was here every day. She was hands-on daily caring for her mom for years, a funny and sweet person, and then she reported her own illness, and very soon after, she stopped posting -- leaves you with a somber feeling.
*I pulled up "the caregiving... how are YOU doing" and the "grossed out need to vent" threads. I'll take a trip down memory lane. 💜
There have been many who went from posting daily/regularly to suddenly stopping or slowly drifting away. I wish all the previous "regulars" the very best, always. ❤️️🧡💛💚💙💜
🎵🎵🎵🎵 To all the caregivers I've met
Who travelled in and out of AC
I'm glad you came along
I dedicate this song
To all the caregivers I've met
To all the caregivers I've met
And may I say you're the best
For helping me to grow
I owe a lot I know
To all the caregivers I've met
The winds of change are always blowing
And every time I try to stay
The winds of change continue blowing
And they just carry me away
🎵🎵🎵🎵
(Thank you Julio Iglesia for the beautiful lyrics)
While here, I'll share that I finished my B.S. with a 4.0. Who knew I was capable of that? I had no clue, but then it kept happening, class after class, all A's. I think my profs are easy graders or grade on a curve, though I did work hard and submitted everything according to the rubrics. I received full points on both final projects/papers. It's given me confidence in my academic ability, and I've never had that. I had the highest SATs in my H.S. graduating class but was in the bottom 50% in grades. My college transcripts from the '90s show a lot of Withdrawals. I didn't know how to do the work.
Caregiving took an immense toll on me, but I think it also made me more driven once I could get my head above water. Who knows. I'm just happy to be at this place in my life. And this forum played a big part in my getting here. Thank you.
StaceyB and hubs moved to a 55+ manufactured home community and were living it last I knew.
I still think of Hope. She took a beating from some here shortly before her mom passed over tooth extractions! I felt so badly for her.
Who was it that lived in NO, daughter moved to Denver at the start of covid. Then all of the sudden she was gone.
Another one, had to start a positive thread. "What's for Dinner" BoniChak.
I wish there was a way to look at our very old posts. We would see how far we have come. After all I have been here about ten years.
Always remember we have no idea what people are going through and it you can't say something nice and supportive, just walk away.
Guam was bookluvr
Ahmijoy had another username, something about big mom or something? Can't remember exactly what it was.
There was another big storm in New Orleans just before she disappeared from the forum. I assumed she had family priorities - always hoped she & hers were OK.
I rarely post these days but I do check the site every now and then just to see how folks are doing. Good to see many of my old friends still doing well.
My wife and I are doing fine, still have the horses and now a crazy puppy that keeps us on our toes. I’m the Senior Vice President in charge of horse poop management, dog park clean up and barn maintenance. Pretty low stress gig. Not much money in it but I’m allowed to sleep in the house and the food ain’t bad.