Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
Thanks. It was rough going when mom was living in my home.
I absolutely burned out. She wasn’t agreeable and argued about all sorts of things. I wore myself out trying to make her comfortable.
So, I guess I wasn’t sure what to expect from her.
I am so happy that she has accepted being in hospice. It’s better for her, better for the family. They can do so much more than we can for her.
I am like you. I don’t judge anyone for not subjecting themselves to pain. We must protect ourselves.
Thanks for your support. I appreciate it very much.
I am actually amazed by my mom’s change in behavior.
It seems the addition of Seroquel and Ativan have helped her tremendously.
I am all for utilizing meds when needed. She isn’t agitated at all. She is calm and pleasant.
I brought her several different kinds of single serving ice creams today.
She had one after her lunch. She has never been a large woman but now she is extremely thin.
The staff check on her hourly. She has a call button for in between their visits, so she is well cared for. I couldn’t be happier with their service.
I have always praised hospice for their dedication to their patients.
I saw the same level of care when my brother was in a hospice house. It’s wonderful to have peace of mind in these situations.
My goal is to support you rather than make you cry.
The estrangement you experience with your mother is not going to disappear because she is in hospice, or because she is glad to see you there.
You can forgive her overall, but the threat of her saying something to you that really hurts and may undo you for years to come is possible. That may be something that could make you nervous. There was Burnout, that was real. Takes time to heal.
Everyone is different. You can go see her. Or, you can withdraw from her final hours if that is better for you.
There is no judgment of you whatever you choose to do.
I could not travel again to see my Mom after the visits I had made. I was not there when she died. I am not hard-hearted, and have no regrets for not going that last month.
You’re not pathetic at all. You’re a human being with emotions.
Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
I hope you start to feel better soon.
I feel a range of emotions at this point in time too.
We’ll get through it.
Our governor has announced that festivals will be able to return this year after Covid shutdowns last year. I love our small town festivals and parades.
NHWM, ((((((hugs))))))) and good thought to you and your mom.
I hope you feel better soon.
Take care.
You hit the nail on the head. I don’t want to have regrets.
I was at the hospital and rehab all the time with daddy.
I saw my brother before he died too. He didn’t last very long in hospice, a few weeks. I was there. He left once to go home but returned shortly afterwards.
I guess I am a bit scared. I don’t know how I would react if I saw her actually die.
Her room has an attached sitting area. Only two people are allowed to visit during Covid.
I am not going to stay away and I stay for awhile. I don’t show mom that I am anxious. Deep inside I feel some anxiety.
Thanks for responding. I want objective opinions so I can see all sides.
I get like that too sometimes. I am relived your mom is calm and has Ativan if she gets agitated and it is a good medication. It helped both my dad and brother during their last days.
Hope you can get some rest today. Perhaps a nap in the afternoon.
The shooting was terrible, we live in such a crazy world. I feel sad for the families.
I messaged NobodyGetsIt. She’s busy with her sick elderly dog.
I am so restless. I pray. I realize everyone leaves this earth. I know that my mom is ready.
Mom is calm. If she is agitated the nurse gives her Ativan. So, I trust that she is comfortable after I leave the hospice facility.
Has anyone ever felt that they want to go everyday but feels that it’s hard to do?
I went just about everyday when she was in rehab.
This is different. I know it’s mom final place. It’s getting to me. Why is this happening? You know, the anxiety. I lost my father in 2002. I know that parents die.
I know mom is peaceful and is expecting her death. She’s not afraid or anything like that.
You know what she told me yesterday? That she loves the color of her walls. They are a very pale peaceful green that has a gray undertone. Green is one of her favorite colors. Blue and green are her favorites.
I feel pressured to be there. She is so happy that I am there. Yesterday I stayed a long time.
I don’t know if I could watch her die. I feel bad that I am so anxious about that.
I don’t know exactly how long she has left.
I’m scared to talk to the nurse about it like I spoke to the hospice nurse about my brother.
Maybe everything is more upsetting because I didn’t sleep well last night.