My mom is 82 with moderate dementia. I went out to eat with my mom and her friend. Then I took my mom to my bother's house for supper. It was only yesterday that I took her out. She doesn't remember going out with her friend, and she thinks that she hasn't called her in a long time. Then she doesn't remember going to my brother's house for supper. She forgets that he has two kids and she forgets what their names are. Also, she goes to Adult Day Care 5 days a week. she thinks that she only went one day last week to Adult Day care. She thinks that they won't pick her up the next day. it seems like her confusion gets worse at night. I try to explain to her what her schedule is for Adult day care is. It seems like she gets really defensive, and argumentative. I try not to have disagreements with her, but it can be really difficult when she is being defensive. Then she gets negative thoughts about herself. I don't know how to assure her that her ride comes for everyday at the same time. Her forgetfulness is getting worse. It is getting really stressful.
It has worked so many times with mother. Whatever she is disturbed about, I can tell her that it is bedtime now and let's go to sleep so we can get up and do it in the morning. Usually it works with her. She has lived with us nine years, and I can relate to so much of what is being posted on this site. Your comments lift me up, and I thank you.
Suggestion: GET HELP NOW! PLEASE DON'T DO THIS ALONE! AND PLEASE DON'T SACRIFICE YOURSELF!
Then just write down the information so that she can look at it when in doubt. As for you to understand this disease more n to recognize it is not your mom but the disease that is causing the memory loss. I know that for myself gets hard to remember n that is why I come here to share, read others post and vent sometimes. I would suggest to educate yourself to understand more. The Alz.org has tons of info n so does this site. In addition, A book called, "The 36-Hour Day," by Peter V Rabins is a great book. This book is like a second Bible to me for it has helped me a lot n this website just knowing that I am not alone dealing with the care-giving stuff. Welcome n I hope u come back to post to let us know how YOU are doing.
Can also try to have all the lights on in the house before twilight hits and don't forget filling the atmosphere with his/her favorite music. This works for me. Hopefully it works for you.