My dad, age 60, was diagnosed with frontal lobe dementia a month ago. He's always been my guy. Always there to lend an ear or a hand. But he has changed so much. My friends and family are trying to be supportive, which is great but I'm having a really hard time being positive about any of it. I'm usually a very optimistic, happy, laid back person but lately I just feel sad and irritable. I realize this is going to be a learning experience on how to cope and dealing with change and I do sometimes have days where I can focus on all the things that are going well. My husband has always been really close with my dad but since the symptoms started he has distanced himself and not held back about being frustrated and annoyed with everything going on. I realize his feelings are justified it's just hard to hear and makes me not want to tell him things. My friends parents are all healthy so while they're incredibly supportive, they just don't understand. Typically in a situation like this, my dad would be the person I went to. I feel alone and I feel like I'm distancing myself from everyone. I'm just wondering, for those who have been in a similar situation, how do you stay strong? What has made this experience a little easier or brought comfort in these moments when all you can think of is slowly losing the person you love? We've had a run of bad luck lately but my fall-back has always been 'at least our family is healthy and happy.' I'm lost now that that's not the case.
Is your mom able to help with your dad, because there is going to be several things that need done now, to deal with his finances. He may be able to draw a disability, since he isn't old enough to be on Soc. Sec., yet. Someone needs to become his POA.