I am fairly estranged from Dad. He has done things in the past and continues to that are in my book unforgivable.
My brother and his family (dad lives in their suite) needed a holiday and in the past I have house/pet sat for them. This year it was house/pet and Dad sit.
It is hard being near an abuser, but I am glad I did it. Luckily Dad does not need hands on care, but he needs someone to check in on him a few times a day and do a few chores he can no longer do himself. laundry, change the sheets etc.
Unfortunately, Dad did not recognize how much my brother needed a break and called him every day. There was nothing I could do about that.
My brother and his family came home to a clean house, with all the laundry done and Dad well take care of.
I did discover that the smell of stale urine triggers my gag reflex. Emptying Dad's over high urinal the first time had me close to vomiting. I learnt after day one to take a deep breath and hold it until I was finished. I have huge respect for those of you who deal with bodily fluids on a daily basis.