About a month ago, I had put a question out there about my dad. They found out he has aneurysms in both legs. With all his other health issues I had to make a decision about surgery or pain management. I received a lot of good answers and support. Well since then, I made the decision not to put my dad through the surgery because it is just as dangerous for him to have surgery as it is to do nothing. Plus nothing they do will improve his quality of life. Surgery would actually make it worse. So in the last 3 weeks, he has had 2 strokes. The nursing home staff discussed with me pallative care which can be done right in the home. Moving him would confuse him even more than he already is. So that is what we are doing. Pallative care within the nursing home he is already in. I want to thank all of you for the support that you have given me so far. I have also been reading other people's posts and although I do not always have an answer, I feel your pain. But sometimes I see questions posted that are very similar to my situation.