Yesterday I moved my husband to a skilled nursing center. He has Alzheimer’s/vascular dementia. He was very lucid which made it harder. He kept telling me to take him home and it broke my heart. If he was in a MC facility of my choice, It would not have been so hard. Because I can’t afford $6500 a mo, we had to go to a Medicaid approved home. I wanted to keep him at home, but I work FT and can’t take care of him as I should. We have been married 32 yrs and did everything together. I miss him terribly. I just needed to talk. Thanks for listening.
It would have been nice for you to have a say in where he was placed. I am sorry that you didn’t. It’s sad that facilities cost so much money.
Even people who have the money for private pay often run out and eventually receive Medicaid.
Of course, you miss him terribly. I hope that you will be able to visit him as often as you like.
Be at peace knowing that he will acclimate to his new surroundings. You absolutely did the correct thing by placing him in a facility where he can get all of his needs met.
Placing a loved one is NEVER easy, but it often must be done.
You did the right thing, and your husband will adjust as will you. Please allow the staff to now do their job and get your husband acclimated to his new surroundings. Yes, that will mean staying away for a week or two, and yes that will be hard on you, but it's important for all parties involved.
I wish you the very best as you continue to travel this road with your husband.