Mother not ailing more than usual, no unusual signs or symptoms other than her constant interruptions. Is she showing signs of cognitive impairment? Does anyone else's Mom constantly bother them? She is trying to get some results, what could it be? We have an appt w/memory specialist and elder social services through mom's insurance next week. Any insight would be welcome. In the end I'd like to continue living part-time here, but she is demanding full-time care w/o saying the words. I insisted she get a home health nurse so now we have 1 visit per week. I'd like to get another part-time caregiver to give her something to focus on other than me. It is so hard to not be frustrated 100% of the time w/her constant contact.
Again thank you for any insight.
IMO the questions that they asked her were nebulous. The doctor spoke to her in do, do, da, da terms.
The sound wave test showed that her front temporal was shrinking, the outcome was there is really nothing that can be done, bring her back in 6 months, for what exactly?
Total waste of time.
She was in AL, last week we moved her into MC, she is just fine, likes it smaller apartment, new friends and more activities.
Some are very pesty my step mother is not, she seems to go with the flow.
Now, my mother is in another AL, she is 97 and very demanding, my brother and I have boundaries and we stick to them, if we didn't she would eat us alive.
Time to set your boundaries, believe me your mother will adjust.
Your mom probably is having memory issues and also at the beginning of dementia people's filters break and boundaries become invisible (an unimportant) to their urgent need for something minor. A part-time companion will help a lot and it does matter that she gets used to the right person at an early stage because acceptance isn't always guaranteed when their cognitive issues increase, even if Mother Teresa was the companion.
I've also learned to say "no" to my mom when she comes to me holding her broken object that needs gluing that minute or the outrageous they-overcharged-me insurance bill that she wants me to call and b**** about (but not if it's during my time doing client related work, which she forgets that I'm not retired yet). She sometimes will act frustrated or put-out by this, but she gets over it. There will be a lot more unfiltered interactions and trampled boundaries, so better to start getting them set up now than later when she is much less able to learn them.
Have a nice sit down talk with her. That will tell you a lot. She may be angry or depressed and you might get "WELL!!!!! I am sorry for even LIVING!!!!" Just let her know you are concerned about the increase and would like to know if she has any insight into why it might be. Tell her you love her, but you are very very busy. Let her know you will check in briefly in the a.m. and in the p.m.
Remember those good old days when our phone wasn't attached to our hand?
Leave the phone at home.
Make certain Mmom has emergency numbers.
And ASK MOM. Ask her if she is lonely, worried, depressed? Tell her you are sorry, and perhaps together you two can troubleshoot that. But that the number of calls is out of the question and can't continue. Let her know you will be leaving your phone at home, or off for some hours during the day. Make certain she has emergency numbers she may need.
We would be guessing at what's going on. But MOM has the answers. Or is more likely to than we are. I sure wish you both the best.