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My mom started drinking about 3 years ago after a serious accident and we eventually took her car keys and got her into therapy. She has been sober now for one year, but today she is drinking again.
To avoid a big confrontation you can easily disable the car by disabling her key. Either switch the key for one made for another car, same make and model, or if there are multiple keys have a notch ground off of her key.
Take the car keys. When our father refused to give up the car keys, we disabled the car, knowing he would not have the money to fix. For your mother's safety and the safety of others - you need to do whatever necessary to stop your mother's driving.
This no joke. you cannot afford to have her kill someone else. It could ruin you! YOU!!!!!!!! You will be held responsible for some aspect of it. Trust us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes, take the keys asap. I took mother's keys away (she has dementia) and behind my back she had the car towed to the dealership to get a new set made! Luckily dealership got wise and called me as they figured something was up. Dealership also said they'd get in touch with me if this ever happened again or she ever called them about anything - they're used to the elderly pulling this crap and are happy to tip-off the caregiver (how cool of them). After that I also disabled the car, too. Once the dust settled from this little shenanegan she fessed-up and told me that once she got the new keys she was planning on driving behind my back. Anyway, alcoholics are resourceful so take those keys away and disable the car. Good luck!
You can take her keys. If you don't want to spend a fortune on other transportation options, you can install a breathalyzer on the ignition. It won't start if your mom doesn't pass. Skip the expense of the therapist - send your mom to AA meetings EVERY DAY for 90-120 days. Require she get a paper signed at every meeting to prove she was there. It's cheaper than therapy and less expensive. Alcoholics can lie to therapists but AA members will know she is lying and this will help her. She should have a sponsor that is working the steps with her. This solution is forced by our county's Drug Court and it's more effective than a therapist. We often have people who attend meetings and need their paperwork signed. Columns should be Topic of Meeting, Member signature, phone number.
I haven't done this (in my role as caregiver for my Mom, YET), but a caregiver support group told me that you call DMV and they will send paperwork to insist she come in or lose privileges. These other ideas are great! Just thought I'd let you know this helps for dementia patients who don't wish to face their failing memory issues. I would quietly do the car disabling, key cut change AND contact DMV. So sorry to hear your family is going through this AGAIN. I hope she survives to recover again. 🙏 I'm not sure you can FORCE AA recovery on someone and achieve results. I have the disease and it's a personal battle UNTIL disaster/tragedy makes it court ordered (thankfully I'm in the program and doing the steps, but it's hard to do while being a caregiver for a loved one who just doesn't drive and chooses to stay ill), so hopefully your family can take the steps above to stop the DRIVING. I'd love to know where breathalyzers dont cost a fortune, too (install fee$, monthly fee$). The previous tactics to stop the DRIVING are great. Stopping the DISEASE is much more challenging if the person is choosing denial (more common than you think). Internal emotional pain AND the disease is very serious. They say on Intervention that chemical dependency is a "family disease", so you must handle it as a family. Great question - sending hugs to your family
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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This no joke. you cannot afford to have her kill someone else. It could ruin you! YOU!!!!!!!! You will be held responsible for some aspect of it. Trust us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If you wait for the doctor to do it - and she kills someone while driving - could you live with yourself if you didn't take the keys?
I would quietly do the car disabling, key cut change AND contact DMV. So sorry to hear your family is going through this AGAIN. I hope she survives to recover again. 🙏
I'm not sure you can FORCE AA recovery on someone and achieve results. I have the disease and it's a personal battle UNTIL disaster/tragedy makes it court ordered (thankfully I'm in the program and doing the steps, but it's hard to do while being a caregiver for a loved one who just doesn't drive and chooses to stay ill), so hopefully your family can take the steps above to stop the DRIVING. I'd love to know where breathalyzers dont cost a fortune, too (install fee$, monthly fee$). The previous tactics to stop the DRIVING are great. Stopping the DISEASE is much more challenging if the person is choosing denial (more common than you think). Internal emotional pain AND the disease is very serious. They say on Intervention that chemical dependency is a "family disease", so you must handle it as a family. Great question - sending hugs to your family
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