I originally came on these boards for advice regarding my grandmother and getting her in a nursing home....now I am looking for advice regarding my grandfather.
Background, he is 86yo, he is in remission with prostate cancer that started to spread to the bones. I believe he's been doing the monthly hormone shots for about 3 years at least (I just got involved with his care about 1.5 years ago after my Mom passed). We just found out that he now has colon cancer that has not started to spread, and they are suggesting surgery. I'm not sure that I agree with him having surgery. Ultimately, it will be his decision, he is of sound mind. Otherwise, he is mostly healthy, only takes meds for blood pressure and cholesterol. He had a quadruple bypass about 10 years ago, with no complications since. Any feedback would be appreciated!!
Personally I would opt to not have surgery.
At the age of 86 with the health problem he currently has (prostate cancer that has spread to the bone..even though it is in remission this is a "sleeping giant") it is very possible that by getting rid of the colon cancer it may "wake the giant"
And if this is a slow growing cancer doing nothing might be the best thing.
consult with the doctor and get their take on it and let Grandpa have the final say once all the cards are on the table.