I’ve been a caregiver for my 93 year old grandfather for a year and a half. He lived independently for that time but I helped him with Med management and cooking because he has macular degeneration.
In January he exhibited some strange behaviors and was tested for a UTI but it came back negative, we scheduled a doctors visit. A couple of days before the doctors visit he had a fall that landed him in the hospital.
He spent days in the hospital, then rehab. His mental status initially would ebb and flow, totally cognitive to not knowing anything but who he was. Several tests were run, but I never got an answer on why this was happening, besides some narrowing of the blood vessels in his brain.
I am the only family member who helps and I realized taking him home was not a safe option. The rehab center said he would be appropriate for assisted living. I contacted 3 that I liked and they met with him and went over his case and agreed he would do “well” in assisted living and “did not need” memory care.
He was moved last week and I just feel like he needs more care than what they are giving him. He seems to be stuck in an earlier part of his life. He is refusing to use his Walker because he doesn’t think he Needs it. He has fallen at least twice that staff knows about. He is constantly wandering and looking for his wife.
He possibly has a UTI now. We’re waiting on the culture. I’m concerned he doesn’t even know how/when to get a drink if he needs one.
I have spoken to the director, nurse, and care attendants. They all tell me the same thing, he needs to settle in and he may need memory care in the future.
I am so frustrated because I don’t know how to advocate for him. The place I chose was so highly recommended. I’m scared he’s going to have a serious fall.
Doesn’t he seem like he needs a higher level of care than this?