My relative has dementia and currently has 24 hour care in the home. For a number of reasons I believe it is getting near the time to move her to a dementia care unit and would like that to be near relatives all of which are 3000 miles away. She, naturally does not want to move, believes she should be driving, and thinks she does not need in home care, even thought sometimes she does not even recognize that she is in her own home. I am frightened of the idea of attempting to get her on a plane, as she does not want to move, needs to use the bathroom frequently, and can be a scene maker. Is there an agency which could fly with her, with perhaps nursing care, medications, etc.? Yes it is likely expensive, but are there such agencies?
Has she been evaluated by a psychiatrist who deals frequently with Dementia? She sounds as though in general she might benefit from meds for agitation.
It is very disturbing to move someone with dementia. They often go further downhill.
What is your relationship with this relative? Are you her medical POA?
I don't envy you the task of taking care of someone with dementia from so far away. It can be challenging even when they are in the same town. Good luck!