We moved my mother to Florida with us almost 7 years ago and upsized to a larger house for everyone’s sanity three years ago. In August I got offered a dream job back in our home state. Our family was struggling with the separation and a huge tragedy with one of our sons so it’s been a perfect scenario. Now I’m moving our handicapped son up and will be buying a house there. My husband will stay in Florida till he retires in a few years. My mom has been telling everyone that she hates Florida and wants to go back to Ohio. Our Florida house is going on the market, my husband will move to something small and I’m taking mom to Ohio, but she’s already b****ing about it. It’s not my husband’s responsibility to care for my mom and this wasn’t my life plan, but it has to happen. Her only other option is to find her own apartment which she can’t afford.
We have HUD subsidized apts where I live. They charge 30% of your monthly income for rent. The transit bus comes to the building. There is also Senior bussing for shopping and appts. Food stamps can help.
When Mom moved in with you she lost her ability to have it her way. You have a once in a life opportunity. She either goes with you or finds housing where she is. You are right, DH is not responsible for her.