Tomorrow is supposed to be MIL's first day in memory care. She has been told and we have been gradually moving things in and decorating over the past week. Initially she seemed ok with the move but as the day has approached she has begun refusing to leave the house. Yesterday my husband had to cancel a Dr. visit because she wouldn't get out of bed. I am very nervous that this isn't going to go well tomorrow. If we do get her there, how long should we stay? I don't want her to feel abandoned, but I also don't want her to think we are moving there with her. Any thoughts or experiences others can share would be appreciated. Thank you in advance.
Also, do not buy new bedspread, even if it is several decades old. The same bedspread will be a comfort for her.
As for getting your Mom to the memory care facility, Ahmijoy has the right idea about calling the facility to get ideas on how to make this work.