My mom’s apartment is right by the beeping door that gets set off when residents try to escape memory care. This alarm freaks her out. She’ll look out her peep hole to watch whoever tried to escape get redirected. She sees it as them getting in trouble. This scares her and she’ll think the caregivers will be coming after her. Also, the alarm will go off at all hours at times, disturbing her sleep. Another stressor is her neighbor lady. She has really bad dementia where she wonders, tries to get inside everybody’s room, and wails down the halls. She scares my mom, especially when my mom forgets to lock her door and this lady barges in. Well, my mom had it. This past weekend, my mom felt this lady was a threat trying to come into her room, so my mom pushed her down! I know there’s no excuse for any hands on aggression, however, I see my mon’s side too. So, now she’ll start the Seroquel. They’re moving her away from the beeping door. They’ll try to keep the two away from each other. I’ll also make sure she gets tested for UTI. However, they say if she acts out like this again, she’ll be asked to leave. Hopefully all this will help, but what if there will be another instance? If she does get kicked out of one facility, are they “black listed “ from other facilities too? How does that work? Maybe another facility would be better? Anybody gone through this and it worked out? Looking for encouragement I guess.
She was on hospice at the time. Hospice recommended a much smaller care home that take those that have been kicked out. That care home worked better for mom and would have been better for her from the beginning. And it was cheaper than the large corporation memory care.
If they can't manage their residents, then maybe it's time to move.
Sorry I have no personal experience with this but I do hope that it works out for your mom and you.