My 96 year old mother has lost caregivers with her violent behavior. My brother has POA.
She is otherwise lucid and enjoys spending money every day, on large and small items.
We have put a limit on her credit card but she is relentless about getting what she wants.
She has reverted to a 3 year old with physical strength and a credit card.
FWIW, 'lucidity' comes and goes with the dementias. The elders are not continually acting erratic; there are times when they're acting perfectly fine and others where they're totally out of control with their behaviors. My mother is 95 in January, with advanced dementia, and I can tell you she has good moments and horrendous moments, with the latter being more the norm lately. Belligerence is very common for her as the days and the disease progresses. Yet she can still 'showtime' with small talk & convince others she's just a nice little old lady, which couldn't be further from the truth!
Wishing you the best of luck getting the whole mess figured out soon!
Your mom needs to been seen by a doctor, her behavior is not normal nor acceptable.
The aggression is not safe. Amazing how much physical strength an elder can muster when they are angry! You might look into a geri-psych exam and a mild tranquilizer might help with that.
BTW, my 3 yo grandson is NOT allowed to kick & shove...so maybe she needs to be treated as one. You say she's LUCID, which is probably not totally true if she thinks kicking and hitting is the way to behave.
BTW, I am grateful that when my mom threw a bedpan at me, it was plastic and didn't hurt when it hit.
You don't say if she was never violent before or if she was violent throughout her life. It sounds like she is used to getting her way through aggression. Only you and your family know the answer to this. In any case, these violent episodes should be taken seriously before they result in injury to herself or another. Please document her outbursts and have her evaluated by a doctor for dementia or mental illness. Some medications can contribute to her aggression, and yet others can be given to subdue it. This is a problem that can't be ignored.
It works.
I use the oil. It has THC, turmeric and black pepper. When I give it to him, he becomes relaxed and happy. And hungry! But never aggressive. On the other hand, if he goes more than two days without it, the aggressive behavior returns.
It's natural, and after 6 months I can say that there are no negative effects.
You can find THC products in oil or pill form, or candies. I started with the gummed, but he didn't like them, so I switched to the oil.
Good luck!
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