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I have no siblings/family at all to help me get my mom's care squared away. My family lawyer and his secretary are being extremely helpful. Is it appropriate to bring them something in appreciation? Cookies/a cake/cupcakes? Or should I just stick to money?

Nice dinner or lunch is appreciated usually. Or good wine although some could be offended.
My husband in his accounting practice almost always got booze as gifts. We had 20 shelves of alcohol from around the world. He hardly had glass of wine on occasion.
But he liked lunch or dinner the best.
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CollieryCats Apr 25, 2024
I'm so glad that gifts/baked stuff aren't totally out of the question here, I really do appreciate their help and love to bake.
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If they are doing it "gratis" (for free) then giving them tokens of appreciation are fine. But if you are actually paying them, then I wouldn't give them anything as this is their job. If they are charging you but at a reduced rate, then again I think a small token of appreciation is fine.
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CollieryCats Apr 25, 2024
Yeah, that's kind of what they're doing. Charging me at reduced rates and kinda gratis steering me where to go for stuff.
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Yes, a treat is perfectly acceptable and would be welcome. This is common in the South when one wants to show appreciation in a gracious way.
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CollieryCats Apr 25, 2024
i guess I just want to get in touch with my Southern (Northern) hospitality then :)
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I am with Lea and Alva. Baked goods are always welcome. Maybe even flowers.
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NO money. That wouldn't be appropriate. They are either doing this gratis (in which case thank them) or they are already charging you.
If they have been very kind, then donuts or something homemade is just great. A beautiful not to them is often treasured much more.
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CollieryCats Apr 25, 2024
It's kind of in between. They're doing a lot "gratis" like steering me where to go for stuff like my parents' unpaid back taxes but I also pay them for service...my POA letter, tax completion, etc. but he doesn't charge a lot and COULD have for the POA.
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I see nothing at all wrong with bringing them baked goods to thank them for being kind. Sure, you're paying for their services, but acknowledging their kindness with an act of kindness of your own is a lovely gesture.
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OK, thank you, I'll stick with money, thank you for your answers!
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If you are already paying them then I would not give them anything.
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Just stick with the Money .
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olddude Apr 25, 2024
Apparently the $200/hour that lawyers charge just isn't quite enough.
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