My 86-year-old mom will perseverate about a need (appointment, glasses, etc.), yet refuse to act. Reminding her makes her angry and agitated. My dad died recently - he was the “coordinator” of their needs - accordingly, she didn’t have to initiate these things on her own.
My mother and I have a prickly relationship - I’m an only child. She lives independently but does not drive. I’m seeing some memory and cognitive decline that is concerning.
How can I edge her toward self-advocacy and initiative? My suggestions and reminders make her angry. Do I just let her be and follow her lead?