My husband got so aggitated after moving him into a assisting living place one day and had to be taken to the VA and they gave him some rx. They took my husband off all the drugs and he is talking and knows all of us, but they wont take him in the assisting living homes now becan.
If not, then my next question is: Is it you who is calling around to find a placement or is it the VA's social worker? Because he or she would feel bound to report (and give an opinion on) his behavior at the previous AL. If you are calling, you can expand on your knowledge of your husband's behavior and his current status with meds bringing his issues under control. In other words, the social worker has limited knowledge of you husband could be scaring them off. You would have a chance to give the big picture on the situation.
I am glad that your husband is on a different set of medicines now, and I certainly hope that helps calm him. I wish you quick success in locating an appropriate placement for your husband. I'm sure the decision to place him at all was stressful for you, and this must be breaking your heart. Stay strong!