I'm a widow with a 19 yr disabled son. When i found this job i was practically in the street..almost evicted.
This job pays very well..I sleep at this house 4 or 5 days a week $180 a day. It's him and his wife..he is a retired Dr. Millionaire. There house is big and I have my own room. His man is 94..he is very strong for his age ..takes vitamins and takes good care of himself. No dementia or any other Illness..only diabetes 2. I hardly do much for him ..I check his sugar..I give him insulin shots..I give him his med and drive him to appointments or shopping..he takes a shower alone. He is also writing his 5th book and im helping. So he knows my situation and he said he wanted to take care of me and give me whatever i want....he tries and grabs me by my waist..tries and rubs on my chest...and he wants me to massage him in private places. I just take care of him..they have a lady that cleans 2xs a week...I lock my room at night..now I'm scared to lose my job because he is furious i keep telling NO NO NO. Pls i feel terrinle..I'm making real good money but i cannot take this anymore. I'm 48 and i feel he should respect me and understand respect his wife...if i tell her i will lose my job for sure. He has afford me a lot of money BUT I CANNOT!!! I can't do that. :( my friend says I should take the money..but I cant..please help me what can I do?
I have a feeling his wife already knows about his proclivities; she can't have lived with him for years and be totally naive.
I suspect he's been through a series of women he attempted to seduce. What reason did he give for hiring you after (presumably) the last one left?
What I would think about is a way to video his actions secretly just for protection. You never know what this kind of predator will do once you give notice.
Sometimes it's possible to take action ONCE, and establish that you won't tolerate the b.s. Sometimes it becomes a back and forth nonstop battle. If you think you can exert enough assertive energy (as Cesar Milan the Dog Whisperer says!), then tell him with complete seriousness, that you'll call his dr. Immediately for a neuro/psych eval, because he's exhibiting signs of dementia. Say it with complete conviction, to his face--don't sugarcoat it or soften your voice. I think with an ego as big as his, he'll be flabbergasted. And maybe he'll stop. Maybe your job won't last much longer. I think it's worth trying though. At the very least, you will have stood up for yourself, and that skill will carry you farther in life than anything else. Good luck!
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