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File an abuse claim with police and then Sue him and use the money to live on.
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Sorry, but I honestly don't think you should pepper-spray a 94 year old -- just get out of the room. The police might come and arrest YOU for assault, especially as you have been aware of this problem for some time and are decades younger than he is. Look around for another situation if you don't feel you can level with the wife. So sorry this is happening.
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Find out if it is legal for you to carry pepper spray in your state? When you say "NO" and you have recorded his conversation - if he doesn't stop - zap him with the spray and then call the police. Be ready to move out with no forwarding address but it will slow him down for a little bit at least.
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As advised did you quit?
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I had a situation like that when I was younger. I told his wife and simultaneously handed her my resignation, even though she wasn't the one who hired me. Get out as if vacating from a fire and don't look back. Believe me, you will survive.
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I was supposed to stay till Sunday morning but I cant...I can't I'm recording all conversations.
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I had to lock myself in my bathroom yesterday...today starts a new day he will wake up in a few and I have to take him his tea....I feel so uncomfortable. Thank you ladies.
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Get out, ASAP even if you have to stay at a motel or women's shelter. From what you describe, he's perfectly capable of taking care of himself. The "caregiver" is apparently a potential plaything, it would seem.

I have a feeling his wife already knows about his proclivities; she can't have lived with him for years and be totally naive.

I suspect he's been through a series of women he attempted to seduce. What reason did he give for hiring you after (presumably) the last one left?

What I would think about is a way to video his actions secretly just for protection. You never know what this kind of predator will do once you give notice.
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Even though he isn't documented as having dementia it might be possible he does or some form of it. It seems like as folks age they sometimes get overly sexual and I am pretty sure I read on here that especially in dementia patients. Regardless, it's not OK and Ismiami is right you should find work elsewhere. Trust me as a Caregiver to my mom if my mom didn't despise outside help I would pay almost anything for someone to help out. You can find a better situation.
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Start looking for a new job, even if it pays less. There is a reason he is paying generously, he has probably had others quit on him before.
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