On visiting my husband yesterday in his nursing home, for the first time, he tried not to let me leave by forcing the door whilst I was trying to get through. He also banged my head against the wall, enough to frighten and cause me headaches.
All he talked about during the visit was why I’m not getting him out and bringing him home with me! He was also upset over not taking him cigarettes. He gave up smoking 15 years ago but was given them without my knowledge on the first two days of being there!
Do you think I should tell my adult sons about this incident as I know how much it will upset them. I’m sure the younger one wouldn’t want to visit or even take our grandson in as he is very attached to his grandson? Would love some wise wisdom, thanks.
If you are talking about the door to his room, do not be alone with him again. You need to see him in the common area. A staff member can bring him to you. That way if there is any aggression, the staff is there to help. If this continues, you may have to stop your visits.
-his doctor
-your doctor
-your friends
-family (it’s up to you) (only you know the advantages/disadvantages to speaking about it) (it helps to have at least one family ally; one family member who knows and who’s on your side).
Please be careful. Someone who is aggressive will do it again.
He may have an infection, be dehydrated or have some other medical condition in play.
Get yourself some medical attention. It sounds like you might have a concussion.