Mom has dementia. We care for her as she went to the hospital with malnutrition and failure to thrive while living with the younger brother. I am angry! She has sundowners and does not sleep, therefore I do not sleep and I still care for her during the day. We needed the 5 day break in care (my husband still works and has been sleep deprived also). All his brothers do is bitch about where she was for the 5 days. We are also looking to a more permanent placement as she is a handful. I am disabled and she is turning to be too much for me to handle with a bad back. So I trying to find a place, nice, within her budget, but the younger brother is the one on the checking account. None of us has power of attorney or conservatorship so this has to be a family decision, but I think they want me to continue to care for her! Any ideas?
Spectators in this situation do not get an equal vote.
If your respite choice was not acceptable why did a sibling not offer to stay with mom at your place, while you and hubby stayed in a hotel. A moderate hotel like a Hampton inn can be pleasant for a week and cheaper than respite.
If it is a well organized family of love doing the caregiving better yet...that is found few and far between, unfortunately for the one needing the care.
There is never enough family in this situation.