Then family was notified week later. What would be his motivation to do this? We are very upset. Took a week to tell family parent died. What should I do?
Well, one of two things: pitch a fit and ask why you weren't notified (were you close? Did you visit often? Were you a 'helping' part of the needs of elderly parents?)
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Don't pitch a fit and simply ask why you weren't notified. Simple question.
My mother lives with my brother's family. He is supposed to email us all every week simply a brief update on her health. In 22 years he has never done this once, despite us reminding, asking, begging for this simple 5 minute task.
I could see him doing something like this. He and mother have a weird and twisted relationship and although she complains endlessly about him, she also won't follow through on a single 'complaint' she has. We all just ignore it as trying to 'fix' this is pointless.
There must be an underlying reason. Just ask.
When my MIL dies I do no think that there are any plans to notify her oldest son, from whom she is estranged.
or
Don't pitch a fit and simply ask why you weren't notified. Simple question.
My mother lives with my brother's family. He is supposed to email us all every week simply a brief update on her health. In 22 years he has never done this once, despite us reminding, asking, begging for this simple 5 minute task.
I could see him doing something like this. He and mother have a weird and twisted relationship and although she complains endlessly about him, she also won't follow through on a single 'complaint' she has. We all just ignore it as trying to 'fix' this is pointless.
There must be an underlying reason. Just ask.
When my MIL dies I do no think that there are any plans to notify her oldest son, from whom she is estranged.
It's sad, but it happens. A lot.
Best way to find out why he would do this would be to ask him.