Brother made sudden visit from out of town. Mom called late last night to say they were lost and would get a hotel room. She has no meds and just the clothes on her back. I've been calling her all afternoon with no answer but her phone battery is probably uncharged. Brother not answering anyone's texts. Brother going through crisis - financial, relationship, etc - and said wanted to talk to Mom.
Mom has high blood pressure and is stroke survivor. Takes meds morning and evening for thyroid and blood pressure. Has vision and balance issues. Goes NOWHERE alone. Needs arm to lean on. Also, is very cold here today (FL) and she isn't dressed warm enough. I am concerned for her safety and health.
My siblings and I are giving it until evening before we completely panic. Suggestions?
I like the pill idea and think we will do that. Can't hurt.
It is weird when the tables turn and you become the parent. I took my mom to the doctor this week and had told her to dress warmly with a muffler, because cold air makes her cough. When she came out (five minutes late), she had a hat on, no gloves and an old ratty jacket (not her winter coat). It was 2 degrees out and she immediately started coughing, because she didn't have her warm muffler over her nose. I was fit to be tied! From now on, I'll have to go upstairs and get her ready. At 94, she's lost the ability to know what is right for the weather. Sigh.
This was truly the tables turned and me the parent and her the child, chafing at having to report back, not being able to just do what she wants however she wants. It probably touches on a thornier issue, too, regarding my brother's behavior, which can be erratic, and my distrust of him. And my siblings' distrust of him. I had a brother and brother-in-law living two hours away ready to come looking for them. My husband was right, we should have told him at 9 pm that they could not go out to dinner, it was late and everyone needed sleep.
Glad this episode ended well but I am certainly prepared for it if it happens again. And I'm glad I had this forum for support. Thank you.
You cannot take an elderly person out without there medications for an extended period. I hope bro is stable, even if dealing with a crisis