I didn't think that was likely, but a Mayo Clinic newsletter I got today says it can be treated via psychotherapy, sometimes supplemented with drugs. It is a long process (months or years) but it can teach the person to cope with the condition and function better in relationship.
I like this advice: "Don't blame yourself for the disorder, but recognize your responsibility to get it treated."
I'd never heard of the disorder before I joined here, where some people are coping with parents with this disease.
Do you know someone who is coping better with BPD through treatment?
BPD is heartbreaking, and really not lucrative at all for any therapists I'm aware of. BPD folks tend to quit therapy as soon as things get uncomfortable OR they get "fired" by their therapists for being non-compliant. For years, NO ONE wanted to treat them; I'm glad to hear that there is a treatment modality (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) that is showing some promise.
It seems to me that resources are better devoted to immunising the rest of the population against the effects their BPD loved ones, friends, neighbours, coworkers and so on could have on them. I don't mean by ostracising people with BPD, but by raising the profile of the disorder so that techniques for establishing rational boundaries become more widely known about and practised.
I just thought it was treatable at all (an idea I got out of a novel) so the Mayo article surprised me.
Very sad, isn't it?
Short of "have you met your mother?" I couldn't think of a way to answer her question honestly so I just said it seemed to be coming up a lot in conversation, which was at least true. There's none so blind as those who will not see…
Reading more widely recently, I gather that mindfulness techniques have been used with some success in highly motivated individuals. But if you were a borderline, and that had pretty much got you your own way for seventy plus years, would you want to change? Most borderlines don't think there's anything wrong with them, and the ones who do and are made miserable by it don't believe they deserve any better.
It's a bit of a pig, is BPD.