I am at the end of my rope I can't do it anymore. I know that sounds terrible but she is mean, hateful, lies and plays games. I have taken care of her for 16 years never taking a dime while my sister has taken money from her all the time. I have taken care of her longer than she took care of me, she started charging me rent at 15.
Typically you must give written notice of so many days. This can be as long as 3 months in some states. This is not an eviction notice. This is just a normal notice to terminate a tenancy.
If your Mom is still there on that day after the notice expires...now you decide if you want to proceed to an actual eviction. If the answer is yes...you go to the local count house and you file for evictions, ,the reason given is "hold over". You will be given a court date to appear. You pay the court costs and the cost of the court process server to serve your Mom. Go to court on the appointed day and have a judge hear your case.
You can expect life to get REALLY ugly with Mom once You begin this. But..it is the only legal way to remove her if she will not/cannot willingly go.
This may be the only way to impress on Mom that you are serious about this. Maybe sister too will "get it".
Let me say...there might be another way.... call the police when Mom is going off on you. Have her taken for a psych evaluation...then, do not let the hospital discharge her to your home. You are under no obligation to take her...but they will try to pressure you like crazy. Their social workers will find a placement for her if you refuse.
What are the options?
What sort of care do you provide for your mom? If you stopped "doing" for her, would that ease the stress at all?
Have you called APS and reported your sister's financial abuse?
Have you considered charging mom rent, starting right now?
Tiredburnedout: the sooner you act, the better for both yourself and your mother. You must get one of the lawyers - yours or your mother's - to make a practical evaluation of your mother's assets and income in order to work out a plan for how she is going to support herself for the rest of her days. In doing so you can build in a protection for her against the depredations of your sister.
Then you must set the boundaries for both your own living space and your finances: after a dated deadline (eg 30 days or whatever is mutually agreed), there has to be an enforceable either/or: so either your mother stays and pays full rent, including for common services like water supply and yard upkeep, or she packs up and leaves, paying for her own removal expenses.
If your mother leaves, whether or not your sister continues to dun her for money will no longer be your problem.
if your mother stays, you can make it a condition that no payments can be made to your sister before all rental commitments, including utility bills, yard maintenance, local taxes etc etc have been paid in full. You could even set up a joint account for this.
So..forget evict. She is considered a resident if she got Mail there...doesn't matter that she didn't pay rent.
Your only course is to follow the law concerning the termination of a resident. Give her notice to move. Only after she fails to move do you then have an acceptable reason to evict: "Hold-over"
You can go get a lawyer and pay a lot of money..and a lot of delays...but the process will remain the same, just you pay a bunch more.
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