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If you were using it as a documentary, you would need written, legal permission.
If later, you are making it into a movie, you would need a contract.
If ever, you posted it on social media and it became viral, a family member objected and sued you, that would be a hot mess.
Memories are enough, and the mind has a way of softening or rewriting those.
Give the privacy and respect to your father that any human being should get.
Please consider his needs above your own in this instance.
Hoping that your motivation is not coming from a need to be heard, to be understood, or to prove to siblings (or someone else) that he is, indeed declining.
You can tell that to the caregivers here who are going through what you are, as many can identify with you, and will understand.
Are the doctors listening to you?
They will be nice to view, when you wish to remember them BEFORE Dementia robbed them of their faculties.
There comes a time, after the've passed away, when you finally begin remembering them Before illness, and that is now and finally how I remember my folks, despite the horrible endings to their lives! The videos will be great for that reason, the happy times!
Some of the videos are actually sharable moments too...her singing Happy birthday...her smiling and laughing as she tells us stories (even though you can't understand the story)...her holding her great grandbaby when he was new...who is 3 today...sad thing is she doesn't even "see" the newest great grandbaby that is 5 months old...progression. Those are times when the progression really stands out. Without the video, I am not sure I would have as realistic can memory of how she was 3 years ago. For me, it all just smooshes together.
I think taking video to track progress or for remembering sweet moments, is fine....if you are trying to "prove" something about progression or are going to use it in a way that could be degrading or disrespectful to the person, that is wrong.
If you are dealing with dementia and short term memory loss he might recognise his decline in that moment by viewing some video but would most likely forget and/or be in denial about it. You'd have to keep repeating the process.
This seems to me to be a punitive approach. Don't do it.