Can I walk away? With covid and lack of funds it seems difficult where I am.
Combination of paranoid delusions (especially since riots), lying, possible or faked or intentional cold turkey every month lately when she says she runs out of Percocet, a few days ago apparently taken a kitchen knife and lied about it, then tried to order me around like her slave.
Just 2 days ago I was caring for her through the so called cold turkey and besties. I've done all I can to keep her safe fron covid. It's a constant drama. I'm starting to look for my own apartment.
Covid lockdown and we don't have a car. I lost mine in accident in 2008. I need to focus on me and get a job.
I am only child. She is widow. If I can for the first time in my life have a new life on my own she is somewhat disabled, alone, and can't afford her apartment.
Dont know where to begin. I can't even afford rent.
Your mother will need to be placed in a SNF eventually but she doesn’t sound as acute yet, but that will change.
You need a Plan B for when mom has to vacate so apply for Section 8 Housing now as with C19 everything is taking longer anyway. It can be done via the internet.
Time to think of yourself. Not having a car can be overcome by Uber if no other choices/options as you’ll have to go for interviews.
Brush up on your Microsoft Office skills. If you don’t have any of this experience teach yourself to use it. This takes time (again) but you can pursue this while waiting for “The Event” that will require your mother to enter long term care.
Get a resume written.
Prepare yourself now because that day is coming. If you aren’t on the lease you will be out of luck with no where to go. There is probably someone on the waiting list for your mom’s apartment (if she is in any type of taxpayer subsidized housing) as we speak. The rental company will follow the state rules for Subsidized housing and you won’t be able to jump the line.
As for yourself, I would call or go online to your county's Dept of Health and Human Services to see what benefits you may qualify for (like section 8 housing, food stamps, job training, etc). May I point out that you could put in an application at caregiver agencies and probably get hired because that's sort of what you've been doing up till now. They are always looking for people. I wish you all the best as you recover your life!