THE FAMILY HAS BEEN PAYING PER HOUR FOR HIS NEEDS, BUT SHE SEEMS TO WANT TO BE WITH HIM ALL THE TIME NOW. WHAT IF HE GETS VERY SICK? A CERTAIN NUMBER OF PAID VISITS/ MONTH, OR UNLIMITED? THANK YOU, WE DON'T KNOW HOW TO HANDLE THIS.
MY FATHER IS IN NURSING HOME, FULLY CARED FOR. cAN MY SISTER, LEGAL GUARDIAN BE PAID FOR TIME OFF FROM WORK TO VISIT HIM?
If you can work out something with Guardian Sis, such as 2 paid visits a month, that would be a simple solution. If this doesn't seem adequate to GS, maybe she can explain what she does there that is different from the visits other family and friends make. There may be some advocating and monitoring she does that you are not aware of. If you can all agree on a reasonable arrangement, that would certainly be better than dragging lawyers into it.
I think you are quite realistic in identifying the bottom-line issue here. Any money spent out of the estate now reduces the amount you each will inherit. Is it "fair" for GS to get money now and all of you get less later? Well, yes it is, to the extent that she is earning that money. But the question legitimately arises as to whether all of her visits are in her capacity as guardian.
If you can all agree to some guidelines that would certainly be best for your long-term family relationships. If possible, I would hope the disscusions about this could avoid judgemental or accusatory statements.
Good luck!