Even though it’s pretty much time for mom to go live in a group home, I just cannot even begin to think HOW this is really done. The thought hurts my heart and is on my mind everyday.... I just don’t know the steps to even begin. She will not want to leave her home and dog! They are super close.
Some assisted living facilities and group homes accept one pet. Start by calling the Area Agency on Aging and explain what you are looking for. They have all kinds of lists of resources.
Seeing our parents need more help than we can give them is indeed heartbreaking. Hugs.
I decided, because of her dementia and the fact she is fairly compliant when it comes to doctors, that this was the easiest way to do it.
She does keep saying that she can’t stay where she is (I’m not 100% sure where she does think she is though) forever but I just reply that the doctor says she needs to stay there for now, which she then accepts.
I now have the dilemma about what to do about her home. I don’t need to sell it to cover care home fees, however, there is no point in it sitting empty and it needs too much in the way of modernisation to be able to rent it out as it is. I know the best plan is really to sell it but I feel guilty about it. I also keep thinking, what if she gets better and can go back home, even though I know realistically at 93, that is not going to happen. I am considering selling it and not telling her, then just saying everything is fine if she asks about it.
Remember you never get a 'yes' to a question that is not asked - ask around - there may be students who could do this for you
Just evaluation the dog before - so will she be good with others fussing over the dog & is the dog's temperment such that it will adjust to living with so many people
You are doing what is best for her. Try to get excited that she will have social activities and be safe. It’s a job, but doable with a plan.
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