He just asks questions like our parent's birthdates and siblings and just questions about family members. Dad has moderate dementia so he cannot answer these questions. I have an uneasy feeling but I don't know if I am being overprotective as I have never had anyone take care of a loved one before. She is excellent with dad and treats him like her own dad so I am just concerned. Since dad cannot answer is this just normal talk that they do.
They harass us several times daily. They won't send any documentation-say they don't have it. (Duh). And the only info they have is his name address and birthday.
Do No give out birthdates. I keep telling them to send what info they have and they say they don't have any.
I read about this collection place and they try to get you to send something back and it is determined that you do owe. It is crazy. No matter how many times I tell them we never heard of that company, they keep saying to send them a fraud notice. This has been going on for about 5 months.
Careful with the birthdates.
The other day I was at Mom's NH and the activities professional was chatting with the residents getting them to liven up , make them remember things like holidays and birthdays etc. I'll tell you this my Mom had no idea what holiday was in December, but she undoubtedly knew the month day and year of her own birthday.
One woman on hospice just came back from the hospital and just days before was not able to do much at all, remembered her daughters birth date, and a smile came over her face because she was remembering something about her daughter. So the caregiver may simply want to see if the answers are clear to them.
I would ask 'Why do you want to know?"
There are plenty of other things to talk about.
I'd tell her it makes you a little uneasy and while you don't think she'd use the information for something ilicit, you'd prefer she stick to less controversial subjects. That will put her on notice that you're antenna is up... If she had something in mind, she'll think twice.